Is Your Home a Haven or a Hellhole?

The blogger at Mormon Men has announced that he recently filed for divorce.

Having extended family members who are Mormon, I understand that this is a somewhat heavy decision not taken lightly, since one of the primary tenets of the Mormon church is people who are married, are married for eternity, in this world and in the next.

Given the quality of his blogging and his harsh introspection of himself and his own role in his marriage that brought him to this point, I'm quite certain he has come to realize he had no other choice.

Once you take the red pill, there is no going back to the blue pill.

One realization he came to in explaining his reaction to his decision really resonated with me:

The most persistent feeling I get however is a sense of relief: relief at having not brought children into this, relief at not having to be a punching bag any longer, relief at being able to come home to my dog and have my house be a haven instead of the place I have to be the most on my guard.

One point I frequently reiterated in my past posts regarding relationship dynamics, and the plight of the Average Married Chump, is for men to ask yourselves if a behavior you are engaging in is the behavior of a man interacting with his lover....or a little boy answering to his angry mother.

If it's the latter, than chances are you are living the uncomfortable and hellish existence of the AMC. As I wrote in The Primary Trait of the AMC: Fearful Dishonesty:

Take the old axiom to heart - honesty IS the best policy. If you can't be honest about something, than you probably shouldn't be doing it in the first place.

Are you afraid to come home and deal honestly with your wife?

Are you fearful of what you think will be her anger and disapproval if you tell what you're doing, feeling or thinking?

If this is how you feel, you are not living in a real home.

Remember the old saying, "Home is Where the Heart is?" That only applies if you relish being in your home in the first place. And that 'aint gonna happen if you live every waking moment in your home, fearful of upsetting your wife. Lying to her to try and avoid upsetting her only makes it worse, because even if you don't consciously realize it, you will hate yourself for living a lie.

Home is supposed to be your sanctuary. Your place to rest, relax, and recharge, so that you can get ready to go out and face the world another day...knowing you can come home and let your guard down and just enjoy the company of your family upon your return.

How can you do that when you're afraid of doing or saying something, and than having to deal with an upset tyrant of a spouse?

That is because you are not supposed to be under the dominion of her emotional state in the first place.

This is precisely why so many men work all that overtime when they really don't have to. Or why they always go to bars or clubs or buddy's houses to drink and try and forget the conflict, anger and disapproval they know they are in for when they walk through the door of their home.

I know, because I've lived it.

Things are much different for me now. I look forward to coming home every single day. I look forward to talking with my wife, seeing her smile, hearing her laughter, eating her cooking. There are times where we are invited to attend events and occasions, and I prefer staying home. Home is what you make of it, and the woman you choose to put at the heart of it.

Here's to Mormon Man finding his haven.

The Moral Sex Responsible for Taming Men

A female commenter going by the moniker paigeu, left an interesting comment on the Hooking up with the Dark Lord post.

I can see the truth in it all but it is very embarrassing. I grew up with the idea that women were the moral sex and were responsible for taming men.

The average manosphere blogger or commenter would guffaw at such a statement and immediately relegate it to just another manifestation of the solipsistic superiority complex of the typical modern,Western female.

Worse still, it is the attitude instilled by the modern White Knights of Churchianity. This is the precise attitude that shaped the unhappy home I grew up in, and drove me from the church's regular membership.

But on further consideration...there is truth to be found in this statement.

As women are the gate keepers to sex, they ARE the "moral sex." The morality that women ascribe to their sexual behavior is responsible for the state of morality in society and the general culture at large.

In other words, there cannot be a few alpha players banging multitudes of women, if there are no large number of sluts willing to sleep with men they just met. There cannot be a rash of husbands abandoning their wives for younger women, if there are no younger women willing to be home-wreckers.

The only way men can be "tamed" by the "moral sex," is when the female sex adheres to a code of morality that promotes the building of civilization...Patriarchy.

This is essentially what you see manifest in cultures for which the morality of matriarchal promiscuity is it's centerpiece: untamed males, running wild, contributing to the decline of civilization.

But when women channel their sex into the system of Patriarchy, requiring them to submit to chaste monogamy and embrace their femininity to be complementary partners to their husbands, the male is "tamed." She doesn't truly tame her through force - since a man who can be cowed into submission by a woman's sheer will of force is most likely tame to begin with - she inspires him to tame himself.

My ruminations on paigeu's comment brought one of my favorite movies to mind, Clint Eastwood's The Unforgiven.

The background story of his character, William Munny, demonstrates this principle. A former scoundrel bad boy thug who was inspired to change his carousing, wild ways into becoming a family man.

Men are not "tamed" by chaste, virtuous women because the woman demands it. Not because she forces him against his will either. No, she tames her man by inspiring him. By giving him a happy home graced by her femininity, he is content to forgo the hedonistic pursuits of the untamed culture of rampant female promiscuity. Eastwood's character stopped drinking, gambling, gun-fighting and carousing in saloons to become a farmer and a family man.

Even after his wife died and he decided to try and gain the whore's bounty to get some desperately needed money, it took him a long, long time to awaken the beast within, the one that he had tamed for such a long time. Throughout most of the movie, it is comical to see him try and regain his former "bad guy" ways.

It takes the sheriff displaying his best friend's body in an open casket for the entire town to see that William Munny finally unleashes that long-tamed beast within, and in the film's climax, he walks coolly into the sheriff's office full of armed men, outnumbering him 10 to 1, and guns them all down in a cold blooded, unflinching manner. The untamed beast wiped out the entire organization of law and order in that town in under 10 seconds.

This is exactly what is happening in our current society that celebrates and advocates female promiscuity. This is why we have overflowing prisons of young men, most of whom come from single mother households.

Our current system is designed to empower women by dis-empowering men. To promote their competitive role with males, and to remove any personal consequences for female promiscuity.

When the majority of a society's women embrace this, the men have no reason, motivation or desire to even try and tame the beast.

Feedlot USA

Look at this photo. These cows are eating corn and soy. Look at the food labels from the products you buy in the grocery store. Do you like your feed?



"None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free" - J.W. Goethe

I was at the feed store the other day buying chicken feed (non-soy based feed, of course).
While I was waiting for the store clerk to see if a certain kind of feed was in their warehouse, I was standing around and looking at all of the other products they had on display for animal husbandry.

My eyes fell upon a castrator up on the wall. What do farmers, ranchers and herders use a castrator for? To emasculate the males so as to regulate the breeding of your animals, and to make the males less aggressive and easier to control.

This is especially important when you put a large amount of animals into a feedlot to fatten them up for slaughter. Emasculated males don't fight over access to females. They simply eat and get fat, increasing their profitability for their owners when it's time for harvest.

That's when I realized that our current society is nothing more than the ordinary citizenry being treated as animals confined to a feedlot system to fatten us up for slaughter...all for the lucrative profit of our owners.

Instead of a physical pen keeping the sheeple herded into close proximity with each other so our owners can give us specific feed to fatten us up...

...instead of physically emasculating the men with a castrator to control their behavior...

...our feedlot owners have erected the barriers to this virtual feedlot within our minds.

The feedlot we inhabit is a mental construct. The barriers were erected by our institutionalized education system and our mass media driven culture. The largest section of fencing is "conventional wisdom." That is the strongest means of keeping the herd in strictly controlled confinement.

It keeps the herd eating their fattening, health-destroying feed. It keeps us from naturally procreating offspring in the normal numbers we would if we lived in a natural state in the wild. It keeps us from forming self-contained and self-sufficient units called "families." It's much easier to control one giant, homogeneous herd than it is to control a large amount of loosely affiliated family units.

They are fattening us up to profit off of the problems and dysfunctions that their feed and health programs for the herd invariably cause for each individual.

They want us to eat like grazing ruminants, contrary to nature of the predator species that we really are.

They use societal programming like feminism and all of the legal ideas, legislation and enforcement regimes that it entails to castrate manifestations of male virility in society.

To control the herds population growth, you castrate the males.

To control the herds behavior, you control the female behavior and the castrated males will follow suit.

Yes, we are all sheeple, confined in this feedlot we call "Civilization."

The one thing you must learn though, is that being stuck in this feedlot is your own choice. You can ignore the barricades they've erected to confine us. You can step out of it's confines and live life in it's natural state...uncontrolled, un-herded, and free of castration.

But you need to be able to recognize the barricades for what they are, in order to escape it.