Friday, March 13, 2009

Home Sweet Home

Yeah, I haven't been posting much...still struggling as a debt slave in our Brave New World Order and Obama's changing economy...

...but I've still been thinking a lot about all the MRA related issues; the gender war, the decline of Western Civilization and all the other topics for which my eyes have been opened to in the last couple of years.

There's a lot of time to think when you're driving in traffic to and from the office.

One topic I've been thinking quite a bit though is this:

IF you do take that incredible risk in today's crazy system, and you do get married...the quality of your wife will determine the quality of your home.

She literally and figuratively BECOMES your home.

Because if she's a loving, thoughtful, kind and giving person, who cares about what you think and what you have to say, and is not intent on chattering your ear off as if you were one of her gossipy girlfriends the minute you walk in the door, and who tends the domestic chores and fills your kitchen up with wonderful smells of the forthcoming meals you savor, you cannot WAIT to get home every day.

But if she's a shrill, shrieking shrew that nags you the minute you get in the door, demands you "share the domestic load equally!" and withholds sex as a means of manipulating you, "Home" doesn't have the same ring to

These thoughts came to me when I overheard a few woman at lunch the other day at a restaurant here in Downtown Honolulu. They were discussing the divorce one of them was in the middle of going through.

"He's such a Workaholic!"

Oh how I am sick of hearing that particular complaint from bitchy women!

I felt like leaning over and saying the following to her:

"Your husband is a workaholic because he'd rather be working late (or having an affair, or drinking himself silly with his friends) than come home to the environment you've created there! No women who knows how to treat her man will EVER be whining to her girlfriends that her husband is a "workaholic!"

A happy, pleasant wife who shows her love to her husband will have no problem making sure her husband WANTS to get out of the office or away from his work-site as soon as he possibly can, every single day to get home to the SANCTUARY you create for him!

If he doesn't come home all the time...take a look in the mirror and be honest with yourself: Would you want to come home to you?"


Anonymous said...

Not to mention the fact that a man's social status is defined by his work, and women tend to respect men with high social status...

WooZoo said...

Not to mention that if he didn't work, she would be complaining to her girlfriends that he's a bum who doesn't earn any money.

Nice post.

Elusive Wapiti said...

As much as I am sympathetic to the thrust of your post, a man's workaholic-ness may not be necessarily connected to a crappy home life or a success-objectifying woman.

This kind of behavior may very well be the result of an over-developed work ethic, out-of-whack priorities, too much debt slavery, or what I call the "provider syndrome".

A good woman may very well be in the right to complain about her husband being gone all the time if it is for reasons such as these and not connected to her behavior and pressures.

Elusive Wapiti said...

"...the quality of your wife will determine the quality of your home."

I forgot to address this.

One of the things that MRAs / MGTOWers need to start talking about is how critical it is that a man give mate selection his due diligence.

Not to Bible thump here, but the Bible spends a lot of time, in passages directed straight at men, advising them to pick carefully and with much fear. Take a peek:

Proverbs 12:4: A worthy wife is the crown of her husband, but a disgraceful one is like rot in his bones

Proverbs 17:1:Better [is] a dry piece of bread, and quietness with it, than a house full of sacrifices [with] fighting

Proverbs 19:13: ...the nagging of a wife is a persistent leak

Proverbs 21:9 and 25:24: "[It is] better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than [with] a quarrelsome woman and to share a house."

Proverbs 21:19: Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife

Proverbs 27:15: A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day

These are just a few off the top of my head. I note that most have to do with an "ill-tempered", "quarrelsome", or combative women.

Given that modern women are encouraged to be these things, a fellow would have to search for a while to find a woman who is peaceful, respectful, industrious, and interested in matters of children and home. And it is better to stay single than to marry a woman who does not meet these qualifications.

Anonymous said...

I disagree, EW. The woman should appreciate the fact that her husband works hard, not bitch about it to her friends. To divorce one's husband because he works too long hours is beyond ridicilous.

MarkyMark said...


If you don't get married, then you don't HAVE to worry about the quality of the woman you choose-ha!


Anonymous said...

Well said Hawaiian Libertarian. Sometimes though men have to be workaholics because either he makes nearly nothing or the wife spends the money as fast as he can earn it. Then they turn around and gripe about him being a workaholic. Did it ever occur to the jury that maybe he works all the time just to keep a roof over her and the kids heads? Women can be such ingrates, they can go out and work inhuman hours and raise their kids by themselves, without my help. A woman that has all the charm and warmth of a harpy is guaranteed to make a man stay out of the house as long as he can each day, or eventually divorce her as I divorced my now ex-wife.

ElectricAngel said...

You linked this recently, and I just read it. Short, to the point, and true.