The Great Unlearning

"To attain knowledge, add things every day. To attain wisdom, remove things every day." - Lao Tzu

"The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn." - Alvin Toffler

"The most difficult subjects can be explained to the most slow-witted man if he has not formed any idea of them already; but the simplest thing cannot be made clear to the most intelligent man if he is firmly persuaded that he knows already, without a shadow of doubt, what is laid before him." - Leo Tolstoy

Most of us take it for granted, but teh Interwebz is the greatest library of accumulated human knowledge the world has ever known. For the introspective autodidact, it is without a doubt, the greatest technological advancement in the history of mankind for both good and bad.

The best aspect of this tech, is the empowerment of the individual to do a virtual end-around all of the various gatekeepers of news and information. The Big Government-Big Business entity that is in the process of consolidating their control to bring us under a single one world tyranny can no longer simply use it's control of Big Media to dictate the narrative and control all thought.

On the other hand, the worst aspect of the world wide web is that it makes the Panopticon of Total Information Awareness a.k.a. perpetual surveillance on every citizen, everywhere, technically and feasibly possible.

In the not so distant future, "Unplugging from the Matrix" will no longer be just an allegory or abstract metaphor for contemplation, but an actual, physical action you will have to take (i.e. getting rid of your Mobile Affirmation Devices, unplugging the Tell-A-Vision and any other "smart" appliances, and cease using the Internet from any personally owned computers and devices), if you want to escape the all-seeing eye of Sauron.

But I digress.

The first three quotes I cite in this post, from Yoda (Lucas), Toffler and Lao Tzu, basically sum up my personal experiences with study in the University of the Autodidact. Almost every single facet of my personal life has been transformed, shaped and guided by all that I have learned, unlearned and relearned on teh Interwebz. The way I eat, sleep, cook, clean, shop...the way I socialize, the way I seek recreation, the way I parent my offspring,  interact with my family and friends and the way I conduct myself in public whenever I am out in society at large...nothing I think and do has been unaffected or changed by all this time spent reading and writing in the virtual world.

But it is Tolstoy's quote that is the true impetus for this post.

"The most difficult subjects can be explained to the most slow-witted man if he has not formed any idea of them already; but the simplest thing cannot be made clear to the most intelligent man if he is firmly persuaded that he knows already, without a shadow of doubt, what is laid before him."

This, I think, is what lies behind the never ending cycle of debate and argument over "Game" in the MAndrosphere. Whether it's the Men's (Human) Rights Activists denouncing it as pussy begging or the God-fearing, devout Christians denouncing it as sinful nihilism, it seems to me that those who oppose this thing we call game have their minds firmly made up and are not willing to concede they may be mistaken or wrong, even when they read the anecdotal accounts and testimonies of the many people who weigh in with their own experiences on how discovering this Praxeology helped them learn, unlearn, and relearn how their attitudes, thoughts, posture, demeanor, presentation and confidence play a role in relating to others, male and female alike.

Faced with so many anecdotes of the personal transformations so many folks attribute to game, the ideologically opposed grant no quarter, refuse to spare one inch of concession that perhaps there is something of positive value here. At this point, I have to simply concede the following - if and when you come across the topic of Game on teh Interwebz, you will either "get it," or you won't. If you don't get it, or don't want to get it, great...not my problem. But if you want to tell me I'm wrong, you can try your best to convince me, but at this point I've seen it all before. Give me a new argument, because all of the other ones you've used before fail to overcome the truth of my own personal experiences and observations.

So rather than engage in yet another round of debate by engaging with the naysayers, denouncers and detractors by fisking or responding to any specific objectors posting or comments, I'm going to focus the rest of this post to discuss why I advocate people can gain much from the study of this controversial endeavor.

I also intend (but no guarantees!) for this to be my last and final post on this topic of "WHY GAME?" At this point, I'm done debating and disagreeing over this.





When I first came across the topic of Game on teh Interwebz, I had spent my entire life being indoctrinated and brainwashed into being a NICE GUY. From Generation X onward, this is the mainstream cultural paradigm we were all inculcated with via mass media programming, institutional educational curriculum and for most of us raised as Christians, the Feminine Imperative-based culture of Churchianity.

Discovering the discussion of Game by the PUA's and the PUA wannabes on teh Interwebz was literally THE "Red Pill" that lead me down the path of unlearning all this cultural indoctrination that had turned me into a NICE GUY. When I started reading about such things as hypergamy, shit tests, unapologetic masculinity, dominance, keeping/maintaining frame and how so many aspects of femininity and masculinity have been twisted, distorted and warped, it only took me less than a couple of days of reading and ruminating to grasp the big picture of just how badly I had been learned into dysfunction.

In short, conforming to the Brave New World Order's societal conditioning turned me into a bitch. As Matt Forney notes:

“Bitch” is a common insult, but no one really thinks about what it means. The interesting thing about the word “bitch” is that its meaning is different depending on the sex of who you’re insulting with it.

Female bitches are typically combative, mean, miserable and bossy; in other words, they’re masculine.

Male bitches are typically catty, passive-aggressive, whiny and gossipy; in other words, they’re feminine.

So when you attack someone by calling them a “bitch,” you’re accusing them of failing to live up to the ideal of their sex.

Ah yes, that is precisely what a NICE GUY is, a bitch. Prior to reading up on the topic of Game, I was utterly and completely clueless about how and why I had become one. But boy do I remember those days well:

Why do you have to be so upset all the time?

What should I do? What would you like me to do?

Yes, Dear.

Would you like to do this? How about that?

Please, Hon?

What do you mean you can't do this anymore?

I'm sorry.

What do you mean you're unhappy? How can I make you happy?

Can I call you tomorrow?

Would you like to have sex tonight? Why not? PLEASE?!?!

Girls night out? I hope you have fun with the girls then!

I'm so sorry!

If it will make you happy, than I'll do it.

But I had plans! I made you a nice dinner, and picked up a good bottle of wine and I rented that movie you wanted to see and...... ah well, that's okay. Don't worry about it. You go out and have fun, I'll just save the food in the fridge and reheat it for you tomorrow. Don't worry about, it's not a big deal...I understand the sale ends tomorrow and you and your friends need to take advantage of it while it's so cheap. Have fun, and know that I'll be thinking of you while you girls are shopping! Love you!

Would you like this one, or would you like that one?

Will you accept my apology?

If you don't like it, I have the receipt so that you can return it and get something you do like!

Would you like to hear this song your beauty inspired me to write for you?

I'll make it up to you...I PROMISE!

What do you think about this? Is it good? Do you like it? Maybe you'll like it better if did this instead?

What should we do today?

How come you never want to have sex anymore? 

Why won't you accept my apology?

Wow, he's such a jerk! Why do your friends always go out with guys like that?

Should we go to counseling?

Can I go fishing with Dave this weekend? PLEASE?!?!

Would you like me to hold your purse for you?

Will you make love to me?

Sure I'll get your tampons for you....which brand do you prefer? Absorbent or Super-Absorbent? Do you need any pads, too?

Where do you want to go? What would you like to eat?

OF COURSE you don't look fat in those jeans!

I feel like we need to work on our communication skills. I feel like we don't have meaningful conversations anymore, and I really want us to become more intimate.

Would it be okay if I go surfing with Joe tomorrow? I'll be back in time so we can do something...

NO, I was NOT looking at her!

Okay, I'll sell it or give it away...I don't really need it.

I'm sorry.

Anything you want...I'll do it!

What do you mean I always lie? I do NOT!

Do you love me as much as I love you?

Would you like to hear this poem I wrote for you?

Steve is having his bachelor party this weekend. Don't worry though, I'm not going, as there will be strippers there and I know how you don't want me to be around things like that. Don't worry, it's okay, he'll understand. Yeah, we've been friends since elementary school, but he knows how important our relationship is and that I would never disrespect you like that!

You are the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth!

How can we make our relationship better?

Can you please kiss me?

I'm sorry....

Do you need help with that?

Yes, it's my fault...again. I'm sorry.

Would you like me to....

Hey....I said I'm sorry!

Please don't hang up on me....hello? HELLO?!?!?

Oh the painful recollections of my former self and how I lived a life walking on eggshells and fearful dishonesty. Re-reading that again makes me want to retch. It makes me want to travel back in time and kick my bitch-ass self in the balls. Except even that wouldn't be possible, as my balls were safely hidden away in her purse.

I was just trying to be the Nice Guy. The archetype of the supposed type of guy women say they want.

Trying to do and be all the things a man is supposed to, to make the relationship work. Being sensitive to her needs. Striving to please her, and make sure to avoid upsetting her as much as possible.

Checking with her on everything.

Constantly asking for reassurance that she was happy. Constantly asking for her approval.

Making sure I was trying not to do anything that would upset her. This included telling a lot of "white" lies to try and avoid upsetting her. Striving to be supportive.

To let her needs, wants and desires supersede my own at every potential conflict.

This is precisely how guys slide into attraction killing "Beta-tude."

I was trying to live the deliberately programmed lie enlightened ideal of EQUALITY by avoiding any overt expressions or actions of confident masculinity. The last thing I ever wanted to be accused of, was being a "misogynist."

This is also how I almost ended up divorced. Thanks to the great unlearning gleaned from the insights of Game, I am today a Father, a Husband, and the unquestioned leader and head of MY household.

And the one overriding, most important principle I came to in my study of Game, was that the unapologetic, unashamed embrace of masculinity is found through honesty....honor and truth as venerated throughout history in all of the Great Books for Men. **lozlzolzol**

Game gave me the means to step outside of myself and see just how dishonest I was being in striving to be NICE. It allowed me to recognize how I was learned by society at large to become a bitch, and gave me the starting point to unlearn all those attitudes and behaviors, so that I could relearn the authentic meaning of masculinity. As noted in my past post, The Priamary Trait of the AMC: Fearful Dishonesty:

When I was an Average Married Chump, I was a liar. A dishonest weasel. I lied all the time. Most all of it was so-called "white lies." And it wasn't just in relation to my wife, but with my peer group, my work-place colleagues and school classmates...everyone.

This was because I lived my life afraid to upset other people. I tried to always find what I mistakenly thought of as the path of least resistance. To use dishonesty to avoid conflict. For instance, if I were invited to participate in something I did not care to, I would scramble for a convenient excuse -- A LIE -- instead of being honest and straightforward and saying, "no thanks, I'm not interested in doing that."

The real problem with that is when you spin webs of deceit, you eventually get tangled up and caught. It is inevitable if your whole social life is based on trying to avoid upsetting people by lying to them. And from the perspective of the woman you are having a relationship with, it is the ultimate respect-killer.

This is how "game" showed me truth, and eventually brought me to Truth. Women's attraction and respect are based on hypergamy. Being a bitch of a NICE GUY puts you into the role of supplicant, the beta-orbiter and puppy dog douche, pussy whipped and stumbling around in a oneitis-induced stupor of idiocy. This leads to contempt and the unhaaaapppppiness of your spouse. Keep it up long enough, and you end up caught and ground up in the wheels of injustice in our anti-family court systems.

Reverse-engineering this sad state of affairs was only made possible by discovering this thing called game.

I know what I know, because it was knowledge and experience gained through personal trials and tribulations, brought about by much introspection and unlearning all of the regularly scheduled programming of relationship dysfunction in our Brave New World Order.

When I contemplate the topic of Game, I am not distracted nor side-tracked by the moral and spiritual judgement of its foremost practitioners who indulge in hedonistic and nihilistic debauchery. That is where you can go with it, but that does not define it in it's sum totality.

Based on my personal experience, I am firmly persuaded that I knows already, without a shadow of doubt, what is laid before me.

God, Game & The Shape of the "Men's Movement"

"You're Doing it All Wrong!" "No, Game!" "No, MRA!" "No, MHRA!" "No, MGTOW!"

Contrary to popular belief, the "men's movement" on teh Interwebz has always taken the form of a particular shape...and that shape is a circle.

Are we all set yet? Ready...aim....FIRE!


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The following comes from a post written on an old MGTOW forum by Zenpriest. After re-reading the post Retrenched referenced in my comments, I had myself a nice little Lima Oscar Lima moment.

The more things change, the more they stay the same.

 
 
The following is a paraphrasing and edited re-post with current linkage to apply Why There Never Has Been Any Coherent "Men's Movement" and Why There Never Will Be to the current debate on Game and Christianity going on in the Christianity-concerned sector of the MAndrosphere.

And, once again, here is why there never has been any coherent "men's movement" and never will be. Women who detest everything about another woman will still stand with her as a woman against all men, while men will argue each other to death over such weighty issues as Vox vs.Chesterson or Cane Caldo is not Chesterton.

Men, in general, seem so obsessed with dividing the world into "us" and "them" that the inevitable end point of the process seems to boil down to "me" and "them".

There are far more than just two types of motivations for a man to unplug and decide to go his own way. And, there is no "the" division among the MAndrosphere on teh Interwebz - there are thousands of divisions, even though we only have a little over 100 members.

PUAMRAMGTOWMHRAWHATEVS is not any sort of "movement", or at least no sort of mass or unified movement - just like the so-called "marriage strike" is no sort of strike at all, but the visible result of millions of men turning off to the idea of marriage, and becoming so disgusted with all the secular women who have the EMF (Entitlement Materialist Feminist) mentality, and for other Men struggling with adhering to Biblical Christianity, they too are becoming disgusted with the EAP (Evangelical American Princess) mentality, that dealing with modern women is so unpleasant, that aversion to them is stronger than the normal biological drive and attraction.

That alone says a lot about the quality of women we have as our possible choices of mates.

"Understanding" does not equal getting down with someone in their self-pity pot and wallowing in it with them. If that is how they want to spend their time, they are welcome to do that, but the rest of us have better things to do with our time and our lives.

I think there is a third group which is far larger among MGTOW than either of those mentioned above - men who realized that the system was rigged against them and opted out of playing the rigged game.

I have a certain degree of empathy for divorced men who have been screwed over by the system, but it is limited. The signs have been out there in the culture for more than 30 years indicating where this is all headed.



Men who ignored those signs, or were too thick to realize what they meant, had the chance to avoid what ended up happening to them, but chose not to. I saw those signs and have avoided most of the negative consequences of dealing with EMF and EAP women, and don't see any reason why they couldn't have done the same.

Yes, I agree that the system has mightily fucked them over. What I do not understand is why so many of them continue to support and defend the very system which did fuck them over.

I view the whole marriage/fatherhood and even dating issue much like I view the de-criminalization of marijuana. Marriage and fatherhood have been criminalized, and those who go ahead and choose to do it are doing it at their own risk. A lot of people take the same approach to smoking pot - they do it, and hope that they are one of the ones who get away with it without getting caught.

Of course, for men seeking to follow the path of Christ, they are commanded to "smoke the pot" if they burn. This makes complete sense, because authentic, Biblical Masculinity and Patriarchal Marriage have also been criminalized.

So there does exist a group of both Christian and secular men of whom the legal deterrent is significant enough to encourage them to refrain. Particularly when past experience with the criminalized activity has convinced us that it is marginally worth continuing even without the legal risk.

Now, there are a lot of issues on which I disagree with [insert any MAndrosphere blogger or commenter here]. But none of them are significant enough to be worth putting energy into creating conflict about and risking polarization because there is a far greater number of issues on which we are in total agreement. Since those are major issues for men, it makes more sense to spend time and energy looking for ways to cooperate and strengthen each other's efforts, instead of wasting a lot of time and energy, and creating animosity, by trying to prove to each other that we are right and he is wrong.




As Zed aka Zenpriest pointed this out way back when, I too echo the sentiment. We live in interesting times, and men need to lower their guns, step out of the circle, and get busy doing what they need to do to get what they want out of this life. (While filed that link under "Eye of the Mind" that particular story "so shut up and shovel the fuckin' gravel." was written by Zed.)

So Free Northerner asked the Christian denouncers of Game for an alternative. In my view, much of what these guys are preaching, is discussing the same things, just using a different terminology to get away from the advocacy of sinful fornication, promiscuity and adultery the PUA advocate when discussing Game.

There are a number of us that see no inherent conflict or evil in studying this thing called Game..but there are a number who do.

I say, have at it Gentlemen. You think those of us that tell men they can learn something useful from studying Game are headed in the wrong direction? Fine. Instead of jumping into the circle and pulling out your guns and getting ready to shoot us, I say, GO YOUR OWN WAY. If what those of us who advocate the study of Game are wrong, then the rightness of your argument will win out.

Go and build your foundation and see what may come of it. In the big picture, I agree with most of you, more than I disagree. In my view, the disagreement rests on semantics and everyone trying to define "Game." Some of us see it as a toolbox...one that has zero relevance to adhering to God's laws and morality. I agree with the assessment from the blog Masculine by Design, in which he states - Game is Not a Four Letter Word.

Game has dark roots by Christian standards. It started out as guys on the Internet trading ideas about how to get laid. In particular, how to walk up to woman a you had never met before, and have her in bed before the night was out. Not using force or money, but by convincing her that it would be a fantastic idea to sleep with you—right now. And, it worked.

Despicable.

Then something unexpected happened. Men at the other end of the social spectrum—shy, socially inept men—started to ask how they could simply talk to a woman without her publicly emasculating them by proclaiming “YOU think you're good enough for ME!” And, lo and behold, game worked for them also. Dating, marriage, children, a family—a normal life—suddenly became a real possibility for these men.

Not despicable at all.

Game is amoral; game is concerned about reality, and men were desperate for answers about why the world worked as it did. So, they extended game into other areas of their lives—marriage, work, school, the legal system, politics, church, and economics—in an attempt to see if they could answer why these things were as they were in modern culture. Game developed a profile of men, woman, and American culture. The profile is unflattering (to say the least), and has led some to call game anti-women (and ironically others to declare it anti-men). But game isn't anti or pro anything or anyone, it's about what works. Pragmatic to its core, if something worked it became part of the profile; if it didn't it was discarded.

Game is not a religion, and Roissy is not its prophet. I believe it is a Praxeology, and studying it's axiomatic truths can help many of awaken to the truth. I can only shake my head in disagreement because I KNOW what studying and applying it to my own life has done for me. In the same way all the denouncers of the Paleo Diet never ever gain traction with me, because I've done it, and the differences in my health and well being are more than enough confirmation for me to discern who's got it right, and who's got it wrong. I know what path I'm on. I know where I am going, and I know where I am from.

When it comes to men getting together and discussing the way of the world, many of us will agree, and many of us will disagree.

This will always be so. Time to accept it and move on.

Team Woman

With permission from 7Man I post "Team Woman" here for posterity's sake.

QFT!


 


TEAM WOMAN
by 7Man

I have observed that a woman always takes the side of other women against a man unless she has a particular attraction or allegiance to that man. Women are very competitive and will fight another woman over a man if he is Her Man (or a potential Her Man), but will not engage in a fight with another woman on behalf of a man that she has no feelings for (not Her Man and no desire to make him Her Man).

In simple terms a woman is on two teams: Team Woman and Team Her Man.

Team Her Man is her primary allegiance and she will go against Team Woman if she has a Team Her Man.

But Team Her Man is a more fluid and ill-defined concept. It can be an unbelievably strong loyalty but can quickly slide into nothing if she loses respect for Her Man. Most women have no Team Her Man but desperately want to be on such a team.

Also other women will actively fight against a woman that puts Team Her Man first. Happiness is found on Team Her Man and so any woman that does not have a Team Her Man tries to recruit a woman back to Team Woman so that all the women team members can be miserable together.

The irony is that any woman that tries to sow discord in another Team Her Man does great damage to all other Team Her Mans and thus hurts herself too. There is just too much comfort in the shared misery on Team Woman and they can gripe about the happy women that are on a winning Team Her Man and against the imaginary Team Man. The members of this Team Woman don’t understand the concept of the greater good.

There is no Team Man, because men don’t give a shit about other men. The women on Team Woman think they are fighting against Team Man (aka Evil Patriarchy), but Team Man never showed up for the fight.

So in our modern world, Team Woman is predominant and is changing the rules to make it easier to win against an opponent that never showed up for the fight.

Praxeology & the truth of Game

 For the most part, Vox Day is largely responsible for helping me to see the error of my ways, and curing myself from an addiction to Mass MediaPCP. It took years of reading his old World Net Daily columns and daily posts at his blog, to eventually unplug from my regularly scheduled programming of establishment Republican/Neo-con-driven ideology. During all that time of reading and debating amongst the dread ilk (the nickname for the regular participants of Vox Popoli comment threads), I eventually clicked over to some references to Austrian Economics websites and the Mises Institute. This, to say the least, introduced me to a whole new way of viewing economics and politics. 

Having graduated with a (now largely useless) Business degree from the University of Hawaii, I had two years of economics courses, and in hindsight, I've come to realize the primary difference between the Keynesian-based economics curriculum of my Business college and the Austrian school and it's proponents, is that Keynesian economics starts off with the flawed deceptive premise that economics (as presented and taught in academia) is an exact science, on par with chemistry and physics, and that scientists can control the economy with centralized planning based on scientific "laws," while Austrian theory is based on Praxeology. 

Anyone interested in an in-depth description of Praxeology and the difference between it and the 'hard' sciences, should read Austrian luminary, Murray Rothbard's piece on Praxeology here(pdf).

But for expediency's sake, as Rothbard's treatise on the topic is somewhat in-depth, we can just go with the definition posted by Wikipedia, who's entry for Praxeology defines it thusly:

"Praxeology is the deductive study of human action based on the action axiom. The most common use of the term is in connection with the Austrian School of Economics, as established by economist Ludwig von Mises."

 The deductive study of human action based on the action axiom...so what's the action axiom?

"An action axiom is an axiom that embodies a criterion for recommending action. Action axioms are of the form "If a condition holds, then the following should be done."

Given that Vox is both an ascribed creationist Christian and an avowed proponent of the School of Austrian Economics, I find it completely fitting that he is also a proponent of game while completely dismissing the relevancy of evolutionary biology and psychology that are the so-called sciences cited by many game proponents and PUA. In the comment thread of Vox's response to GBFM, he writes:

"Evolutionary biology is nothing but ex post facto fairy tales and psychology is bullshit. Game doesn't require grounding in anything but observation of human behavior and the construction of predictive models from it. The "why" is irrelevant."

In other words, Game as we've come to know it here on these fringes of teh Interwebz, is a Praxeology...i.e. Game is the deductive study of human sexuality and inter-relational behavior based on the action axiom - "If a condition holds, then the following should be done."

Here is but one example that I can think of off the top of my head, that is a game-based action axiom:

*** Women often "fitness test" or "shit test" men. Men interested in mating with a woman need to learn how to recognize when she does this. When he ascertains that in fact she is attempting to fitness test him, there are several known responses that other men have employed with varying degrees of success, such as "agree and amplify."***

Looking at game as an exercise in Praxeology should help those who struggle with the morality of accepting these ideas of game description and proscription, versus the vehement distaste for the immorality of promiscuity many (but not all) game proponents advocate and celebrate.

While I am not trying to speak for anyone else here, I do believe the defining line between those of us in the MAndrosphere who are nominally Christian and advocate Christian Marriage (Vox, Dalrock et al), and see no conflict between Game and Christian morality, versus all the other Christians who are up in arms about it and repeatedly denounce it, is that those of us in favor, simply view game as a Praxeology; it is not a hard science, nor is it a moral code to live by. Rather, it is simply using deductive reasoning to come up with action axiom's to describe the hows and whys of human intersexual attraction and mating behaviors.

These action axioms are useful tools for men to recognize and reverse engineer the myriad of deliberately inculcated dysfunctional behaviors and characteristics that pervades societies institutions, mass media programming and subversion of our churches with the idolatry of Goddess worship. As more and more men embrace the axioms of the Game Praxeology, more and more discover anecdotally that they are based on observable truths regardless of the morality of the men doing the "testing in the field."

Just because men committed to Christian morality may take ideas from and discuss with the axiomatic truths of game with the immorally promiscuous PUAs, does not mean we are holding it up as a new religion, a new moral paradigm or a new idol to be worshiped blindly and in total faith; nor does it mean we are deifying or glorifying fornication, adultery and promiscuity. 

We are ALL fallen sinners. Based on our common, fallen and debased nature as sinners, throwing out the axiomatic truths of game simply because they are espoused by sexual sinners is akin to throwing out YOUR argument (any argument on any topic, that you choose to make) based on your own sinful nature.

If one considers the ideas on their own merit, and not the person who is voicing the idea, there should be no moral problems with men employing the axiomatic actions prescribed by immoral game practitioners for his own use, to achieve his own Godly goals of sustaining the covenant of marriage and leading his family.  

As Vox wrote on his post Game vs. Churchian Idolatry:

Now, Game is not Christ. Game is not Truth. But Game is truth, and he who comes to love truth will, in time, come to love Truth as well.

Amen.


We are all one day going to face our creator, and have to account for our sins. 

Of all my sins I dread accounting for, "learning to neg my wife from reading the anecdotes of Pick Up Artists on teh Interwebz," is definitely not one of 'em.

Game the System

Over the past several years, I've watched with growing fascination at the emergence of the MAndrosphere's "red pill" paradigm being discussed, debated, denounced or defended amongst self-professed Christian bloggers and commentariat alike. I myself have literally wasted hours of my life arguing on teh Interwebz about the topic. Many of my first posts on the topic of Game, were inspired by debates with Christians on the appropriateness and validity of Game for Christian-believers.

Funny thing, I was raised a Christian from birth until my rebellious teenage years where I fell into an agnostic, hedonistic lifestyle and world view. I was born into a rather common denomination found throughout the Western world of Christian-themed religion: The Order of the White Knights of Chivalrous Churchianity, Holy Defenders of the Female Imperative.

The physical and spiritual emasculation I endured as a young male growing up in that devious, subversive indoctrination always just felt wrong, which is why as soon as I was old enough to resist my parents, I stopped going to church, and dwindled into unbelief for over two decades.

Ironically, it was the years spent reading and participating in this "MAndrosphere" (a clearing house for ideas) that brought me back around to the reconsideration of the validity and truths of the Bible - a book I've recently read last year, for the first time as an adult. All that I've learned via the University of the Autodidact gave me a much different perspective and understanding of the precepts and moral imperatives in what is written in the good book.

Which is why I find it even more fascinating to see so many other Christians who stumble across these fringes of teh Interwebz and immediately denounce "game" and all of it's associated topics as wrong, evil, sinful, etc. Having endured a childhood of Churchian brainwashing regarding the Holiness of the Spiritually In-tune Vagina and the defiled, sinful  state of testosterone, I understand the immediate distaste so many Christians have when they first find these radical, unconventional discussions going on in the MAndrosphere.

I had no such problems myself when I first discovered the PUA on teh Interwebz, because I was an agnostic hedonist that had already lived a life of fornication and debauchery, as a teenager until getting married in my mid-20's. In retrospect, I did get some good out of my earlier Churchian programming, as I had multiple opportunities to engage in adultery since getting married...but deep down, that particular sin was something I had been raised to believe is almost as serious as the sin of murder, so I never crossed that line. Even when I was at a point in life where my agnostic unbelief in God was at it's strongest, my ingrained brainwashing by my parents and Churchianity made me too scared to cross that particular line, despite having coming really close to it on several occasions.

Nevertheless, the Beatification of Betahood in my particular Churchian community, and growing up in a household in which my parents are faithfully but quite unhappily married, has had a profound influence on my life.

In short, the discovery of "Game" on teh Interwebz, gave me a systemic overview of the aspect of masculinity I didn't have, growing up in a house with a contentious, ball-busting Mother, and a pussy whipped, beta-fied Father ("I'm the head of my house, and I have my wife's permission to say so!").

I've written about this a lot before, so at this point, I must digress and say one thing - my Father gave me a lot of positive lessons in masculinity...just not in terms of relating to Women and the institution of marriage. The only dating advice and how to relate to girls he ever told me was to avoid the sin of fornication and save it for marriage. Needless to say, that was no help in getting any dates in high school. That being said...

Discovering "Game" was my game changer.

It gave me a language to describe and think about so many things I previously could not even name, let alone comprehend.

It provided a schema for grasping the larger concepts bereft in my emasculated upbringing. And ultimately, it has also  eventually brought me around full circle into belief in the truth of the Gospel of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

For this, I have the degenerate scumbags, the cads, the God Awful P-U-A to thank. Oh promiscuous manwhores who proclaim your proficiency in fornication and adultery, it is your discussions and note-sharing on how to commit these debased sins of hedonistic nihilism by exploiting the fallen, sinful nature of women, that helped me come to understand the primary sin that has infiltrated and subverted Christianity in the West, the sin of IDOLATRY.

I believe that is the real subversion of Christian doctrine in so many Churches today - pedestalization of the pussy...which is really just another manifestation of the ancient, pagan religion of Goddess worship.

From this idolatry flows many other sins and corruption of faith and family.

Anytime a Preacher, Pastor, Elder or some other Churchian authority promotes the Female Imperative by exhorting the men to man up and marry the sluts single moms in the congregation, or cut Husbands and Fathers off at the knees in their sermons, or praises  (worships) and the superior spirituality of Christian women, he is committing the sin of idolatry.

Any church that declares unchaste women "born again virgins," or any particular woman is excused and accepted by a church and it's congregation for destroying her family via frivorce, or preaches mutual submission by husbands to their wives or any other translation of Ephesians 5:22 that undermines a Husbands Patriarchal authority in the home, is a church laying it's offerings on the altar of that ancient, pagan goddess bitch.

Without discovering the red pill of game, I doubt I ever would have came to this realization and recognize this idolatry for what it is, nor broken free from it's ritualistic worship. And I'm not the only one.

As Free Northerner testified in his post today:

But game advice gave me something to latch onto. It gave me practical steps I could take to improve myself. Was it a placebo? Possibly. But some of it was real. (The simple advice to not follow around a girl you like like a love-sick puppy alone was worth its weight in gold).

It was something practical I could do to improve myself and become better at social interactions with.

Roissy, Roosh, et al. may be self-professed degenerate scum but what is Zippy* providing?
This is the problem. What are the Christian man’s alternatives?

Seems like Free Northerner keeps going back in forth on his belief in the efficacy and usefulness of this topic of "Game" as a Christian believer. He has come to the point of: If not Game, then what?

Cane Caldo responded with some thought provoking comments:

What do you have to do with me? If you want my help, then you should beseech my help. It won’t encourage me to help if you threaten to take yourself hostage. It is a father’s job to teach manliness. I’m not your father. I don’t owe you patrimony.

The Idolatry of Goddess worship is the religion of our Brave New World Order.

One of the first casualties of this reversion to paganism, is Patrimony.  The transmission of masculinity from Father to Son. While this is much more transparent in observing the phenomena of divorce, single motherhood and all of the other results of our Brave New World sexual morality, critical aspects of Patrimony have also been lost in the two parent home of nominal Christians, due to the idolatry of the Pedestalized Pussy.

Is it any wonder why so many Men are lost, and fail to achieve that which they want so badly? To marry young, virginal women who share their faith in the Patriarchal religion of Jesus Christ, and create families in faith and obedience to God?

The crippling of Patrimony through Idolatry of the Goddess has left a host of men in our current age, searching for answers to questions they don't even know how to ask in the first place.

But the debased, promiscuous cads and their note-sharing on how to engage in seduction to indulge in fornication held up the mirror for many of us to the reflection of truth of the fallen nature of women and her base sexual desires.

Coming back to Cane Caldo's answer for a moment:

Having said that: It’s outrageously stupid to vomit out that I haven’t provided any advice on how to portray manliness, how to handle women, or how to attract women. I have given more patrimony than I owed already! There are volumes here and more volumes in the comments of others blogs. What I haven’t provided you with is the trappings of a system.

That’s what you want: a system. Why? Because you’re a nerd who likes and responds to systems and lists. While all sorts of good engineering is a result of good systems, living life is not. Life isn’t a system. Women aren’t a system. Marriage isn’t a system. Being a man, living a good life, and being married to a good wife, then, isn’t about following a system. It’s about living artfully. That’s why nominal Christians who “find” their answers in the Men’s Sphere bleat and repeat: “But, but, but…the Bible doesn’t teach how to attract and handle women!” Yes it does, but you can’t recognize it because you’re deliberately ignoring art while you delve for a system.

In my opinion, Cane is both right and wrong here, I'll get to that in a moment.

These are all arts, and arts can’t be codified into systems.

Another of the many confusions surrounding Game. It seems like–and is sold as–a system, but it can’t actually be learned except by doing. Those things are called arts.

 
On this aspect, I agree: "Game" is an art, and like any other art, they cannot be learned, let alone mastered, except by doing. Where I say Cane is wrong, is that art, cannot be codified into systems. As humans, we can and do codify artistic practice in a wide variety of endeavors.

You want to learn how to paint? You go to art class where you learn and practice a variety of different brush strokes and blending of colors in a systematic fashion. You want to learn how to fight? You go to boxing or martial arts class and learn a number of drills and techniques in a systematic fashion. You want to learn how to play a musical instrument? Same thing, the systematic study to develop the skills and techniques so you can learn how to practice the art.

But systematic study of an art form is not the only means of an artist developing the skills and abilities to practice. Many artists are "naturals," raised under the tutelage and mentor in their chosen field. They learn by following the examples set before them, without a deliberate and systematic dissection of the various techniques and skills..."monkey see, monkey do."

Thanks to the socially engineered sexual and cultural revolutions, the transmission of modeled masculinity via Patrimony has been decimated. Many of us raised in the environment of crippled or non-existent Patrimony were never given the example to emulate. So the only other choice we do have, is to study and practice a systematic method to develop our own, individual expression of our chosen art form.

But like any systematic study of an art form, the study and practice of techniques is only a regimented means of developing a skill set and muscle memory to be able to move without thought.

The highly skilled painter doesn't consciously think about every particular brush stroke technique while painting a portrait.

The champion Boxer doesn't think about the angles and forms of his 3 punch combination he used to knockout his opponent, he saw an opening and let it flow.

The master PUA doesn't think about his posture, demeanor, choice of words or witty banter while seducing a woman.

These are all examples of practitioners who put in the DOING of continual practice of all the assorted techniques to the point of ritual, all to achieve the ingrained programming that doesn't require conscious, deliberate thought to execute.

To move without thought. The thoughtless expression of effort and technique, through the development by practice.

Like any other art form, some people will have the natural talent to develop their skills faster than others. Some may get it right away, others may have to struggle mightily and practice doggedly with determination over a long span of time, to develop the necessary skills. But ALL who wish to practice an art, any art, whether they learn it systematically or by emulation of a mentor, must learn by doing.

Cubicle Farming the Desk Jockeys

I spent well over 16 years of my life at a desk in various cubicle farms in the white collar corporate world of business in Hawaii. Much of the archives of this blog were written during my down time at my various jobs I've performed in a cubicle. Hours upon hours spent at a desk, hacking away at my keyboard under the artificial light of the PC screen, to earn enough money to service my debts I had taken on to achieve the American Dream of buying shit I didn't need, with money I didn't have.

When you follow the script laid out by our mass media programming and institutionalized indoctrination by the public schooling system, you easily sleepwalk right into the debt trap and the endless pursuit of faux-meaning in consumerist materialism. Waking up from the nightmare is a painful process, but is worth it when you eventually get to a better place and a more meaningful existence. Learning to love and appreciate that which truly matters is one of the most painful lessons I've learned in my time on this planet.

But during this painful awakening to the truth, one of the first realizations I came to, was that this entire charade we call "civilization" was deliberately designed to entrap and enslave as many people as possible in the rat race of  debt-driven consumerism. It's good to see I'm not the only who is aware of this, that more and more people continue to wake up to this society-wide scam.

I just came across an article published 3 years ago, that has recently gone viral on the social media circuit of teh Interwebz, and it shed some light on a new angle I had never considered before while ruminating on the machinations behind the deliberate design of this infernal system.

From Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed:

Here in the West, a lifestyle of unnecessary spending has been deliberately cultivated and nurtured in the public by big business. Companies in all kinds of industries have a huge stake in the public’s penchant to be careless with their money. They will seek to encourage the public’s habit of casual or non-essential spending whenever they can.

In the documentary The Corporation, a marketing psychologist discussed one of the methods she used to increase sales. Her staff carried out a study on what effect the nagging of children had on their parents’ likelihood of buying a toy for them. They found out that 20% to 40% of the purchases of their toys would not have occurred if the child didn’t nag its parents. One in four visits to theme parks would not have taken place. They used these studies to market their products directly to children, encouraging them to nag their parents to buy.

This marketing campaign alone represents many millions of dollars that were spent because of demand that was completely manufactured.

“You can manipulate consumers into wanting, and therefore buying, your products. It’s a game.” ~ Lucy Hughes, co-creator of “The Nag Factor”

This is only one small example of something that has been going on for a very long time. Big companies didn’t make their millions by earnestly promoting the virtues of their products, they made it by creating a culture of hundreds of millions of people that buy way more than they need and try to chase away dissatisfaction with money.

We buy stuff to cheer ourselves up, to keep up with the Joneses, to fulfill our childhood vision of what our adulthood would be like, to broadcast our status to the world, and for a lot of other psychological reasons that have very little to do with how useful the product really is. How much stuff is in your basement or garage that you haven’t used in the past year?

Despite coming to these same realizations, and deliberately down-sizing and economizing my behavior as a consumer, I still have plenty of "stuff" from my days of toiling at desks in the cubicle farms of Encorporea to finance the  mindless consumerism lifestyle, cluttering up and collecting dust in my domicile's storage spaces.

When looking at these accumulations, I often marvel at my former oblivion to my meaningless spending patterns.Why did I buy so much useless devices, contraptions, trinkets, baubles and other dust-farming detritus? The article at Raptitude gave me a new perspective on what may have been one of the subconscious motivations behind my mindless behavior:

The ultimate tool for corporations to sustain a culture of this sort is to develop the 40-hour workweek as the normal lifestyle. Under these working conditions people have to build a life in the evenings and on weekends. This arrangement makes us naturally more inclined to spend heavily on entertainment and conveniences because our free time is so scarce.

*lightbulb* Here's the angle I never considered before!

Of course, this only really occurred to him, because he had actually taken an extended, 9 month sabbatical from his vocation and traveled abroad. Returning from such a long break in the corporate cubicle farm lifestyle gave him a fresh perspective on just what the hell we are all actually doing, slaving away as desk jockeys in the bowels of Encorporea.

I’ve only been back at work for a few days, but already I’m noticing that the more wholesome activities are quickly dropping out of my life: walking, exercising, reading, meditating, and extra writing. The one conspicuous similarity between these activities is that they cost little or no money, but they take time.

Suddenly I have a lot more money and a lot less time, which means I have a lot more in common with the typical working North American than I did a few months ago. While I was abroad I wouldn’t have thought twice about spending the day wandering through a national park or reading my book on the beach for a few hours. Now that kind of stuff feels like it’s out of the question. Doing either one would take most of one of my precious weekend days!

The last thing I want to do when I get home from work is exercise. It’s also the last thing I want to do after dinner or before bed or as soon as I wake, and that’s really all the time I have on a weekday.

This seems like a problem with a simple answer: work less so I’d have more free time. I’ve already proven to myself that I can live a fulfilling lifestyle with less than I make right now. Unfortunately, this is close to impossible in my industry, and most others. You work 40-plus hours or you work zero. My clients and contractors are all firmly entrenched in the standard-workday culture, so it isn’t practical to ask them not to ask anything of me after 1pm, even if I could convince my employer not to.

Heh. I only came to this realization after my last cubicle farm I toiled at in Downtown Honolulu, went out of business in our Brave New Economy, and I started working various blue collar trade work to make ends meet. I've been working off and on part time between 3 different jobs for the better part of two years now. I can work for 3 weeks straight, 6-7 days a week, and then have 2 weeks off before getting a call to work again. While I'm working some physically demanding jobs and earning a little less than I used to make as a desk jockey, I have something I never had before - long, consecutive stretches of time off to do other things I find more fulfilling and meaningful. And yes, I no longer engage in frivolous and meaningless consumption of material goods. I work hard for my money, I'm far more conscious of how I spend it when I do have to venture into the city to go to the various corporate cartel distribution outlets shopping centers to acquire the basics of sustenance.

Now that I've been free of the rigid, inflexible routine of the 40+ hour workweek, I've got far more time to simply THINK.

And reflecting and ruminating is precisely what THEY don't want us doing...as we might actually decide to stop following their mindless scrip and live for ourselves rather than their profits. 

The eight-hour workday developed during the industrial revolution in Britain in the 19th century, as a respite for factory workers who were being exploited with 14- or 16-hour workdays. As technologies and methods advanced, workers in all industries became able to produce much more value in a shorter amount of time. You’d think this would lead to shorter workdays. But the 8-hour workday is too profitable for big business, not because of the amount of work people get done in eight hours (the average office worker gets less than three hours of actual work done in 8 hours) but because it makes for such a purchase-happy public. Keeping free time scarce means people pay a lot more for convenience, gratification, and any other relief they can buy. It keeps them watching television, and its commercials. It keeps them unambitious outside of work.

We’ve been led into a culture that has been engineered to leave us tired, hungry for indulgence, willing to pay a lot for convenience and entertainment, and most importantly, vaguely dissatisfied with our lives so that we continue wanting things we don’t have. We buy so much because it always seems like something is still missing.

Remember that old maxim, "Time is money?"

Fuck that noise. Time well spent on meaningful things is worth far more than the purchasing power of fiat currency reserve notes for materialistic excess. I've gotten far more satisfaction and memorable experiences spending hours playing musical instruments and developing my musical abilities or time spent in the dojo as a practitioner of the martial arts, or hours hunting game in the mountains, than I ever got from buying the latest electronic gadget, playing the latest video game or watching the latest new release DVD.

I've gotten far more meaning out of  hiking out in the woods or swimming at the beach with family and friends, than going shopping.

 Of course, we cannot escape the fact that we need money to subsist. It does take some money to be able to buy a guitar or put gas in the car to get to the beach. But the difference between purposeful consumption versus materialistic consumerism is a matter of degrees and attitude.

Western economies, particularly that of the United States, have been built in a very calculated manner on gratification, addiction, and unnecessary spending. We spend to cheer ourselves up, to reward ourselves, to celebrate, to fix problems, to elevate our status, and to alleviate boredom.

I used to want a hundred various, high end, brand name, guitars. I used to desire a hundred different guns and knives. Every time I'd get a new one, I'd enjoy one of these items for a little while, before feeling that vague sense of I need another, better model.

Upon gaining awareness of the lie that the pursuit of materialism is the road to happiness, I have now come to a place of contentment with what I already do have. Sure, I'd still like to have a Gibson Les Paul or a Taylor Koa wood acoustic...but I'm more than satisfied with my Fender Stratocaster and Takamine acoustic (both I had bought on credit in my younger, more foolish days). But more importantly, I no longer even consider the urge to go down to the music store in Honolulu and put myself into debt to buy a higher end guitar that I want for the 'status' of owning a high-end axe versus the perfectly fine and serviceable guitars I already possess. If I ever come to a point in life where I have enough disposable income to purchase a higher-end guitar outright, I just might. But long gone are the days of impulsive spending on things I don't need with money I have not yet earned.

Can you imagine what would happen if all of America stopped buying so much unnecessary fluff that doesn’t add a lot of lasting value to our lives?
The economy would collapse and never recover.

We are already on that particular road. As the unemployment rate continues to rise, inflation continues to erode our money's purchasing power, and credit availability continues to escalate, more and more people are being forced to cut back on their pursuit of the illusion of happiness through consumption by force, not by choice.

All of America’s well-publicized problems, including obesity, depression, pollution and corruption are what it costs to create and sustain a trillion-dollar economy. For the economy to be “healthy”, America has to remain unhealthy. Healthy, happy people don’t feel like they need much they don’t already have, and that means they don’t buy a lot of junk, don’t need to be entertained as much, and they don’t end up watching a lot of commercials.

The culture of the eight-hour workday is big business’ most powerful tool for keeping people in this same dissatisfied state where the answer to every problem is to buy something.

Yes, this entire state of affairs was deliberately designed that way.

This is what the "Red Pill" really means to me. It's not just deprogramming from the dysfunctional mating script, or learning to avoid the feed and pharmaceutical poisons, or the debt-driven, consumerist lifestyle, but taking it all in it's sum totality. It's recognizing all facets of the Borg that is actively seeking to assimilate us all.


Or, in other terms, as pointed out by Thomas the Rhymer in this recent Return of Kings article,  it's recognizing that we've all been born into a devious, mind-controlling cult:

There is a cult that has spread through the world. Every day, millions of people base their decisions on what this cult proclaims to be agreeable or not. This cult has reserved for itself the right to dictate to its followers what foods they must eat, what drinks they must drink, what is appropriate to read and listen to, and encourages its followers to sacrifice their well-being in the service of this cult. Like all cults, people are gently sucked in, not even realising that they are joining a cult. This is the cult of consumerism, and instead of prophets it has advertisements.

The only true path to happiness in today's Brave New World Order is to escape the cult and find the things in this life that hold true value and meaning: family, true friendships, the bonds of kinship and shared experiences.

But like trying to escape any cult, you're bound to have fellow cult members try and keep you from leaving.

Pay them no mind....

We are in the midst of one of the most widespread cult movements in history, demanding your money at every turn and trying to manipulate the way you think by bombarding you with messages from every possible direction. It’s up to you to decide whether you wish to remain in this cult, and enjoy the false gifts and false pleasures that the cult will provide for you.

Or, at the cost of a sort of ostracism from your friends and colleagues, you can abandon the fool’s paradise and wake up to live in the real world, a world run on whatever terms you can make for yourself, rather than what the advertisers have chosen for you.

What precisely is this life that the advertisers have chosen for we the sheeple? Let's start off with the script of going into debt to achieve credentialed certification from the Brave New World Order's indoctrination cartel higher education University system so you can obtain a position as a desk jockey in the cubicle farms of Encorporea.

Find a the means to escape the 40 hour work week, or the 8 hour workday as much as possible. One or two weeks of vacation a year is just not enough time to build anything meaningful outside of the artificial and arbitrary work week THEY have deliberately designed for us.

Differentiate between your wants and your needs, and consciously try to ward off the influence of the prophets of the consumerist cult as much as possible. Your time is the most precious thing you have in this brief moment of time we call life.

Goodbye Blue Sky

Did you see the frightened ones?

Did you hear the falling bombs?

Did you ever wonder why we had to run for shelter,

When the promise of a brave new world
Unfurled beneath a clear blue sky?

Did you see the frightened ones?
Did you hear the falling bombs?
The flames are all long gone,
But the pain lingers on...

- R. Waters

When I started composing yesterday's post, I dug out Nancy Levant's book from out of storage to transcribe the excerpts I used. It's been over 6 years since I last read The Cultural Devastation of American Women: The Strange and Frightening Decline of the American Female (and Her Dreadful Timing), but after finishing up that post, I found myself continuing to read past the first chapter. 

My first read of this book was an eye opening experience, to say the least. Much of what Levant discussed regarding modern American women's pursuit of status and validation in careerism and consumerism were things I had not really thought about previously. Obviously, on the re-read, I'm well versed in it all after spending the past 6 years of near daily reading and writing in the MAndrosphere on all the related topics she covers. In my opinion, this book stands as one of the best indictments of the state of Women and the state of marriage and our culture written in the last decade.

I've just finished reading Chapter 17, The Divorced Child, and it compelled me to put the book down and blog on this particular topic. In it, she writes about her experiences with providing daycare for children of divorce, and she comes to the realization that a divorcing family with children is really nothing more than a war. A World War.

Divorce is nothing more or less than war in microcosm. But the war is the country, religion, economic base, and social universe of the child. The war causes the destruction of everything the child knows in his or her culture. It is the child's world war, for the world of the child, and everything in it, dies. And the victim of the war is the divorced child.

By virtue of the battlefield, the child will pick a side to stay alive and sane. One parent or the other becomes suspect and eventually, the bad guy. Someone will transform from loving mother or father into the guilty destroyer. Who that person is depends on the wrathful strength of one or the other parent. Who will win the communication battle to convince the child of the other's terrorism? Ultimately, the child will choose which parent to divorce, and in effect, will halve himself, his psyche and soul.

All people, including children, want to be on the winning side. So they divorce one parent and become akin to the other. They pull back from one and become vulnerable to the other's impending lifestyle to come. The child actually becomes a conquered nation. And as the conquered entity in a war, the child grows with resentments, fears, angers and an inability to trust. The child becomes internally sad as all conquered peoples are in the losing of their histories and cultures, and the affects of loss and culture last for generations.

Divorce is war. Total war. A war on children, a war on family, a war on culture and a war on nations. So I guess it's fitting that the Neo-Con/So-Con icon and venerated cold warrior, Ronald Reagan, dropped the H-bomb of his-fault no-fault divorce on the nation in 1969. Children everywhere have since been relegated to refugee and survivor status of a war-torn, conquered and subjugated nation. 

As Reagan's son noted: "Divorce is where two adults take everything that matters to a child---the child's home, family, security, and sense of being loved and protected--and they smash it all up, leave it in ruins on the floor, then walk out and leave the child to clean up the mess."  

Except, as the author of the page previously linked to points out - "The only problem with his definition is that it is usually ONE ADULT that does it. "

No-Fault divorce is by and large a war started by escalating relations, perhaps hostile negotiations, and minor skirmishes. Eventually one side or the other employs the Pearl Harbor equivalent of a sneak attack and then it's "bombs away," wreaking havoc and laying waste to all the lives of the children caught in the crossfire.

And in today's Brave New World Order, it's typically the Mother who launches the sneak attack and leaves the battlefield of her children and husbands lives a smoking ruin. And the main impetus for launching such a devastating ambush to commence marital martial  hostilities?

As Levant notes in the beginning of Chapter 17 - The Divorced Child:

In fact, the number one reason for divorce in America today is "incompatibility."

Incompatibility is a very long word. Let's shorten it to it's actual meaning in divorce court - boredom. More marriages in the United States end in boredom than for any other reason. It is the number one cause of divorce according to statistics, citing that 60% of all divorces in America end due to "incompatibility."

Since Levant wrote that back in 2006, we've come up with new and more accurate description of what she describes as ":incompatibility."

"I love you but I'm not IN LOVE with you."

"I'm not hhhhhhHHHAAAAAAAPPPPPPYYYYyyyyyyy!"

Thanks to the brief appearance of the now defunct and deleted wordpress blog, Frivolous Divorce, we in the MAndrosphere (either Dalrock himself, or one of the comment thread regulars,) have coined a new phrase for the Incompatibility-cited "no-fault" divorce: Frivorce.

Interesting to note the original blog of an anonymous woman who regretted frivorcing her husband and blowing up her family, described it as a murder.

You are about to commit something like a murder. Not a murder, but something like a murder. It will include death (the death of your family), grieving victims (your spouse and children, and eventually you), shame (hopefully you will be very ashamed one day), humiliation (your children will be embarrassed by your behavior and your spouse will be humiliated by the rejection), financial devastation (for everyone), and the intrusion of the State into the personal details of your life.

I think Levant's war metaphor fits better...but then again, what is warfare but murder organized and inflicted on a mass scale? Divorce war is a scorched earth affair, and the only really winning side, is the financiers who supply the weapons and artillery to the participants and stand back and count their profits while the only world the children have ever known, gets annihilated on the battlefield.

It also gives us a more apropos term for someone like the former Mrs. Leif Erikson: WARMONGER. And the worst victims of war, ANY war, is always THE CHILDREN.

Levant, herself a divorced single mother, recognizes the devastation this covert war on American families, wreaks on it's victims (and her own children):

Divorced children are fundamentally sad people. They remind me of every Native American I've ever met. There is a deep sadness in their eyes and souls that is visible and profound, that on e cannot help but to soulfully cringe knowing what has happened - knowing the genration layers of themselves that have been stripped and stolen away.

But parents don't consider this in their boredoms. They don't care enough about their children and what it means to destroy, in total, their entire world. I live with this every day as my children bear the trademark sadness in their eyes. Now I know it's permanent.

I know of that which she speaks. Seeing that same look in my young cousin's eyes when their mother frivorced my Uncle and blew up their world, is what first drove me to look for answers on teh Interwebz about the family court system and Divorce war being waged on the children of this nation.

My cousins are all young adults now. I still see them at family get-togethers, and the permanent and painful scars of the personal world war they endured, are still readily visible in their haunted eyes and mournful demeanors. Fundamentally, they are not happy people. I still mourn them and their possible futures that got blown up by their mother. I vividly remember the joyful, giddy and playful children who were perpetually laughing and smiling and always looking to play rough house with their older cousin, when they lived at peace in an intact family. War is hell is not just some meaningless cliche.

Levant closes the chapter with a stark choice for all the potential warmonger parents out there, perhaps considering their own possible ambush and commencement of hostilities....

And think about this: we now divorce far more easily and readily due to boredom than unfaithfulness or even battery. Upwards of 50% of American children, today, have had their worlds torn in half because one or both of their parents were incompatible, bored, and ready for something or someone new. Think about it - choosing pain inflicted upon your children over boredom. I suggest you need a better reason than this.

 When it comes to the type of Wife and Mother who would wage such destructive war and devastate their children's lives for fun and profit, I guess it's safe to say, reason's got nothing to do with it.

The Outsourcing of Motherhood for Havingitall

There's no care like daycare!

The feminist movement built the American daycare industry, which, in every state in the nation, is FULL OF MINIMUM WAGE FEMALE WORKERS, who perform the job of MOTHER to America’s children for MINIMUM WAGE. - Nancy Levant

This post has been sitting in my draft folder for awhile...I had almost forgot I had even started it. But Dalrock's post about what makes feminists ugly reminded me about the topic. Sunshinemary's latest post also reminded me of it, as she referred to a term I often use (tell-a-vision), that I picked up from an author who's book and columns I read when I first "took the red pill" back in '06. After first discovering her via Outcast Superstar's review of the book, I ordered the book and read it in a single sitting as soon as it arrived.

Nancy Levant spent 13+ years as a Daycare provider, and by observing the thoughts and behaviors of the women dropping off their progeny for her to raise for minimum wage babysit their kids while they were in pursuit of havingitall, she gained a unique perspective on the state of American Womanhood and the family. She turned years of such observations into a book,  The Cultural Devastation of American Women. That book is chock full of thought-provoking content, but for this post, I focus on excerpts from the first chapter, Today's Moms:

As a childcare provider, and in observation of and conversation with nearly 1,000 women, men and children, five days a week, for many y ears, I can report the following givens for most moms of all ages:

1) They are too tired
2) They are not cooking
3) They are self absorbed

Why are they too tired? They are too busy trying to "have it all."  By focusing on careers and/or consumerist driven status whoring, they are too tired to actually nurture and care for their families.

For example, when she states "They are not cooking" she speaks from personal observation:

And speaking of food, meals are fast leaving the consciousness of the American female. This is of particular concern to me because for every group of children I've cared for in the past 13 years, half (yes 1/2) of those children are too hungry and underfed or overfed with drive-thru food. I've seen hundreds of children who have never eaten vegetables and hundres more who eat pizza, Taco Bell, McDonalds, and mac and cheese each and every night for dinner.

I have had one and two-years-olds arrive at seven o’clock in the morning holding zip-lock baggies full of chips, Cheetos, M&M’s, sugar pencils, Skittles, potato sticks, cream pies, brownies and Reese’s Pieces. I’ve had at least 200 children come in the morning with fries from the previous night’s dinners and sweet rolls and mini donuts from gas station mini marts. I’ve had two and three-year-olds arrive with Coke, Mountain Dew, and root beer in baby bottles and sippy cups. I’ve had hundreds of children arrive with fast food breakfasts.

Obesity epidemic? ADD, ADHD and ODD? Couldn't possibly have to do with the fast food-ification mentality programming we the sheeple are inundated with via mass media broadcasting?

I began asking children who were old enough to respond, "What did you have for dinner last night?" And the answers, 90% of the times were, "Pizza, Taco Bell, McDonalds or macaroni and cheese."

Of course, career women havingitall are just too busy or tired to actually cook real food, so they buy pre-made, processed, fast and convenient, microwavable or drive-thru FEED for their families. This is now what we can call the Standard American Diet.

So many women don't realize what they are missing. They don't know about the womanly arts, how it feels to give good, nutritious food to children, as many women now rebel against the notion of mom as family cook.... ...but cooking also takes time and unselfishness, which leads me to another subject - beauty and self-absorption.

Indeed, this is precisely the reasoning behind Dalrock's observation about what makes feminists ugly. At it's core, feminism is the gyno-centric philosophy of selfishism. Cooking and cleaning for other people? That's slavery...even if they are your own family!

To many, many women beauty has become a very expensive, weekly, and time consuming task.

Nancy then compiles a list of common services many Mother's are regularly paying small fortunes on a yearly basis for the sake of appearances. Hair, nails, tans, make-up, botox, liposuction, implants and lifts, teeth bleaching, veneers, personal trainers and gym memberships...

On and on - hours spent, family money spent - literally fortunes each and every year....

...How, you may ask, does that equate to my daycare business? Actually, in many, many ways – first and foremost, the message to female children is, frankly repulsive. Secondly, the message to our male children about females is significantly repulsive and, thirdly the fact that average, middle class women have bought into Hollywood-style looks and grooming is shallow, dangerous, financially irresponsible, and makes American women look like shallow twits to the rest of the hungry world...

...So, after I've had a child for 10 to12 hours, a mother calls and asks if she may stop on the way home from work to get her nails done, or her make-up re-applied, or a comb-out, or a tan, or to stop by the gym for an hour. Now there's a message for the tired and hungry child who has been away from home for 10 hours! But mom will eventually come with drive-thru bags in tow. Women have placed their looks and appearances above the time they spend with their children and far above their children's health...

Perhaps, deep down, the modern American Woman havingitall realizes her self absorption and unwillingness to serve her family to nurture and care for them makes her an ugly person. So she focuses on her outward appearance so she can look in the mirror and convince herself she's not really ugly afterall.

 But no matter how she looks, the ugliness and unhappiness of her status-driven, consumerist existence infects not just her, but her entire family.

When I was a child, every night the entire family used to sit around the kitchen table and eat dinner together. Imagine that.

 Thanks to the pursuit of havingitall, dinner is now eaten on the run, in the back seat of the car, or from paper bags or plastic wrapped, microwaved FEED, in front of the tell-a-vision. But outsourcing the feeding and nurturing of children to the industrialized, corporate feed system is not the worst the modern American Woman is doing to her family.

Children talk about their mothers to a far greater extent than their fathers, and children seem to learn communication skills from their mothers. They definitely learn the rules of behavior and eating habits from their mothers. Sadly, they also learn the beginnings of neuroses from their mothers' nueroses. Tiredness, hunger, intensity, sadness, irrationality, anger, sarcasms and bossiness, sullenness, mood swings, compulsions and obsessions - they so oten come directly from maternal lines. And one more thing - an inherent disrespect by children for fathers also seems to come directly from moms. With that said, I offer more quotes from my daycare children.

“My dad is stupid.”
“My dad doesn’t like to be with us.”
“My dad doesn’t like it at home.”
“My dad is a control freak.”
"I'm not allowed to talk to Dad when he's working."
"I'm not allowed to talk to Dad when he's watching TV."
"Dad never does anything."
"I don't know my dad's first name."
"Dad never talks to Mom."
"Dad likes his car better than us."
"Dad never takes us anywhere."
"Dad doesn't like to sit with Mom."
"Dad likes his computer more than Mom."

On and on... Do you think three, four and five-year-olds come up with this on their own, or do you think they heard this from someone?

All this time I swore I'd never be like my old man...

So, I put my children's pieces together, and a picture of family life evolves. I see a man who is purposefully disengaged from his family. I see a woman who is tired, neurotic, and bored.

Where does this familial-killing ennui come from? I say it's just our Brave New World Order's regularly scheduled programming.

...magazines and television showcase women in their new roles - beautiful, free, affluent, entitled and under fed. But the most beautiful, free, affluent and entitled are "stars." And stars live like royalty with their make-up and hair stylists, clothing designers, architects and interior decorators, big cars, professional landscapers, and servants. And America's women find the examples they desire to mimic called perfection through wealth. And the more perfection needed, the less time for anything or any one else.

Yes, in order to realize the havingitall dream life women are told they need to have to achieve happiness, they must become breadwinners and career success stories so they can indulge every materialistic whim and urge through consumerism and materialistic acquisition. If all that time spent on consuming and perfecting their appearances doesn't allow for time to cook, feed, and clean up their offspring and spouses...well, there's all of the convenience of ready made products and services provided by the transnational corporate conglomerates, to take care of all that.