The Outsourcing of Motherhood for Havingitall

There's no care like daycare!

The feminist movement built the American daycare industry, which, in every state in the nation, is FULL OF MINIMUM WAGE FEMALE WORKERS, who perform the job of MOTHER to America’s children for MINIMUM WAGE. - Nancy Levant

This post has been sitting in my draft folder for awhile...I had almost forgot I had even started it. But Dalrock's post about what makes feminists ugly reminded me about the topic. Sunshinemary's latest post also reminded me of it, as she referred to a term I often use (tell-a-vision), that I picked up from an author who's book and columns I read when I first "took the red pill" back in '06. After first discovering her via Outcast Superstar's review of the book, I ordered the book and read it in a single sitting as soon as it arrived.

Nancy Levant spent 13+ years as a Daycare provider, and by observing the thoughts and behaviors of the women dropping off their progeny for her to raise for minimum wage babysit their kids while they were in pursuit of havingitall, she gained a unique perspective on the state of American Womanhood and the family. She turned years of such observations into a book,  The Cultural Devastation of American Women. That book is chock full of thought-provoking content, but for this post, I focus on excerpts from the first chapter, Today's Moms:

As a childcare provider, and in observation of and conversation with nearly 1,000 women, men and children, five days a week, for many y ears, I can report the following givens for most moms of all ages:

1) They are too tired
2) They are not cooking
3) They are self absorbed

Why are they too tired? They are too busy trying to "have it all."  By focusing on careers and/or consumerist driven status whoring, they are too tired to actually nurture and care for their families.

For example, when she states "They are not cooking" she speaks from personal observation:

And speaking of food, meals are fast leaving the consciousness of the American female. This is of particular concern to me because for every group of children I've cared for in the past 13 years, half (yes 1/2) of those children are too hungry and underfed or overfed with drive-thru food. I've seen hundreds of children who have never eaten vegetables and hundres more who eat pizza, Taco Bell, McDonalds, and mac and cheese each and every night for dinner.

I have had one and two-years-olds arrive at seven o’clock in the morning holding zip-lock baggies full of chips, Cheetos, M&M’s, sugar pencils, Skittles, potato sticks, cream pies, brownies and Reese’s Pieces. I’ve had at least 200 children come in the morning with fries from the previous night’s dinners and sweet rolls and mini donuts from gas station mini marts. I’ve had two and three-year-olds arrive with Coke, Mountain Dew, and root beer in baby bottles and sippy cups. I’ve had hundreds of children arrive with fast food breakfasts.

Obesity epidemic? ADD, ADHD and ODD? Couldn't possibly have to do with the fast food-ification mentality programming we the sheeple are inundated with via mass media broadcasting?

I began asking children who were old enough to respond, "What did you have for dinner last night?" And the answers, 90% of the times were, "Pizza, Taco Bell, McDonalds or macaroni and cheese."

Of course, career women havingitall are just too busy or tired to actually cook real food, so they buy pre-made, processed, fast and convenient, microwavable or drive-thru FEED for their families. This is now what we can call the Standard American Diet.

So many women don't realize what they are missing. They don't know about the womanly arts, how it feels to give good, nutritious food to children, as many women now rebel against the notion of mom as family cook.... ...but cooking also takes time and unselfishness, which leads me to another subject - beauty and self-absorption.

Indeed, this is precisely the reasoning behind Dalrock's observation about what makes feminists ugly. At it's core, feminism is the gyno-centric philosophy of selfishism. Cooking and cleaning for other people? That's slavery...even if they are your own family!

To many, many women beauty has become a very expensive, weekly, and time consuming task.

Nancy then compiles a list of common services many Mother's are regularly paying small fortunes on a yearly basis for the sake of appearances. Hair, nails, tans, make-up, botox, liposuction, implants and lifts, teeth bleaching, veneers, personal trainers and gym memberships...

On and on - hours spent, family money spent - literally fortunes each and every year....

...How, you may ask, does that equate to my daycare business? Actually, in many, many ways – first and foremost, the message to female children is, frankly repulsive. Secondly, the message to our male children about females is significantly repulsive and, thirdly the fact that average, middle class women have bought into Hollywood-style looks and grooming is shallow, dangerous, financially irresponsible, and makes American women look like shallow twits to the rest of the hungry world...

...So, after I've had a child for 10 to12 hours, a mother calls and asks if she may stop on the way home from work to get her nails done, or her make-up re-applied, or a comb-out, or a tan, or to stop by the gym for an hour. Now there's a message for the tired and hungry child who has been away from home for 10 hours! But mom will eventually come with drive-thru bags in tow. Women have placed their looks and appearances above the time they spend with their children and far above their children's health...

Perhaps, deep down, the modern American Woman havingitall realizes her self absorption and unwillingness to serve her family to nurture and care for them makes her an ugly person. So she focuses on her outward appearance so she can look in the mirror and convince herself she's not really ugly afterall.

 But no matter how she looks, the ugliness and unhappiness of her status-driven, consumerist existence infects not just her, but her entire family.

When I was a child, every night the entire family used to sit around the kitchen table and eat dinner together. Imagine that.

 Thanks to the pursuit of havingitall, dinner is now eaten on the run, in the back seat of the car, or from paper bags or plastic wrapped, microwaved FEED, in front of the tell-a-vision. But outsourcing the feeding and nurturing of children to the industrialized, corporate feed system is not the worst the modern American Woman is doing to her family.

Children talk about their mothers to a far greater extent than their fathers, and children seem to learn communication skills from their mothers. They definitely learn the rules of behavior and eating habits from their mothers. Sadly, they also learn the beginnings of neuroses from their mothers' nueroses. Tiredness, hunger, intensity, sadness, irrationality, anger, sarcasms and bossiness, sullenness, mood swings, compulsions and obsessions - they so oten come directly from maternal lines. And one more thing - an inherent disrespect by children for fathers also seems to come directly from moms. With that said, I offer more quotes from my daycare children.

“My dad is stupid.”
“My dad doesn’t like to be with us.”
“My dad doesn’t like it at home.”
“My dad is a control freak.”
"I'm not allowed to talk to Dad when he's working."
"I'm not allowed to talk to Dad when he's watching TV."
"Dad never does anything."
"I don't know my dad's first name."
"Dad never talks to Mom."
"Dad likes his car better than us."
"Dad never takes us anywhere."
"Dad doesn't like to sit with Mom."
"Dad likes his computer more than Mom."

On and on... Do you think three, four and five-year-olds come up with this on their own, or do you think they heard this from someone?

All this time I swore I'd never be like my old man...

So, I put my children's pieces together, and a picture of family life evolves. I see a man who is purposefully disengaged from his family. I see a woman who is tired, neurotic, and bored.

Where does this familial-killing ennui come from? I say it's just our Brave New World Order's regularly scheduled programming.

...magazines and television showcase women in their new roles - beautiful, free, affluent, entitled and under fed. But the most beautiful, free, affluent and entitled are "stars." And stars live like royalty with their make-up and hair stylists, clothing designers, architects and interior decorators, big cars, professional landscapers, and servants. And America's women find the examples they desire to mimic called perfection through wealth. And the more perfection needed, the less time for anything or any one else.

Yes, in order to realize the havingitall dream life women are told they need to have to achieve happiness, they must become breadwinners and career success stories so they can indulge every materialistic whim and urge through consumerism and materialistic acquisition. If all that time spent on consuming and perfecting their appearances doesn't allow for time to cook, feed, and clean up their offspring and spouses...well, there's all of the convenience of ready made products and services provided by the transnational corporate conglomerates, to take care of all that.