As I previously noted, Everyone seems to be taking the red pill nowadays, eh?
I recently saw a manosphere commenter going by the moniker "RedPillWifey" I clicked on her link and with much bemusement read her new blog, "Red Pill Wifery." I quickly ascertained she's a fan of Athol's. Good for her, good for her family.
One of her more interesting posts was her fisking of the old email meme that made the rounds on teh interwebz, The Good Wife's Guide.
I first got that meme emailed to me by an old classmate/friend, before I ever started blogging...most certainly before "taking the red pill." I lol'd along with her and her comments at being horrified at the old ways of Patriarchal enslavement women had to suffer from in the bad old days of the 50's.
Almost a decade later, she's on her last few carousel spins and destined for spinsterhood (she's already tried to settle for a beta - the engagement lasted all of 3 months before she cheated on him with a ONS and ended up dumping him for being BORING. He does not know how lucky he is....) and I have most certainly come to a much more different perspective on this old meme. lulz
I'm half a mind to make this commentary, and re-email the meme image back to her and watch her hamster scramble furiously for my own amusement. But she is an old friend, and we've already been down the old path of arguing about her feminist politics many times before. I'll leave her to her rapidly approaching time of perpetual cat tending and man-hating vodka martini gossip sessions with her fellow single, empowered career womyn peers... but I digress.
Back to the Guide.
As some of Red Pill Wifey's commenters note, the Guide is most certainly a fraud.
What this meme really shows, is the feminist attitudes towards marriage, and that being a good wife is viewed as being a complete slave to a misogynistic brute. The fact of the matter is, even if the things on this list are an over-exaggeration to reinforce the perception that the 50's were a period of female enslavement to the Patriarchy, they would most certainly work for a woman who's serious aspiration was to indeed become a good wife.
For as we all know, modern feminism - aka cultural marxism - certainly doesn't want women to be Good Wives.
A good Wife is a home maker. Her husband and her children are fortunate, because they live in a happy home -- that she makes -- in which Dad can't wait to come home to a pleasant wife, good home-cooked food, and a clean and orderly house. If your husband is the type to always go straight to the bar after work and doesn't come home til late every night, it's a virtual guarantee he dreads coming home...TO YOU.
By making a home, a good wife creates a sanctuary for her man.
A bad wife is a Home breaker.
We know which kind of wife the Feminist movement promotes.
In fact, if you were to take a different perspective on all the actions this "guide" suggests, you can see just how corrosive the feminist zeitgeist has become to the personal relationships between a husband and wife. Much of these exaggerated "suggestions" are the kind of things we all do (men and women) whenever we invite guests over to our house...especially strangers!
We clean up the place, put on nice clothes, and try to create a comfortable atmosphere so that our guests may enjoy their visit to our home, so that we can make a good impression on them. When you create a great atmosphere, everyone enjoys each others company and a good time is had by all....including the person who did all the work in preparing, cleaning and dressing up! Slavery? Oppression?
Yet, to do these things as a wife, to create the same experience for a husband that she would for a stranger...oh the horror!
Think about that for a second...
"We must treat strangers better than our own husbands, or it's oppressive slavery!"
Yes ladies, ignore all of this horrible advice from those bad old days of the 1950's!
Why would you ever want to be a good wife?
Here's an easy question one should pose to any women who shows this meme to you and laughs at it...
What man out there in the world would you most want to meet and fall in love with and gain commitment from? Which male out there tingles your hypergamous desires more than any other? Is it some rugged Athlete or sports champion? A musically gifted, multi-platinum recording pop rock star? The Prince of England? The hottest Movie Actor in all of Hollywood? Who? What guy out there is your ultimate Fantasy?
Now let's say you met him and he accepted an invitation from you to come over to your place for dinner.
Would you really feel enslaved and oppressed by cleaning your place up, wearing your best clothing and doing your hair and makeup to make yourself presentable, and then getting ready with a drink in hand to present to him the moment he came over to visit you?
Would it be oppressive to try and make him feel comfortable and relaxed at your place? Since he's your dream guy, you'd do all of this and much much more to try and get him to fall in love with you and give you his commitment, no?
Why is that acceptable in trying to attract your dream man...but suddenly it becomes "enslavement and oppression" after you've gotten that commitment?
The answer to that question is this: because you've been lied to. You've been sold a most pernicious deception - that happiness can only be found in selfishness. Understanding this and avoiding it is the only way you have a chance at getting to Happily Ever After.
Of course, to understand all this, we have to really get to the truth of the matter: A housewife falls out of attraction with her husband (too much Beta/not enough Alpha), and she finds herself doing all these things for a man that she does not tingle for, it most certainly feels like slavery.
Feminism succeeded in appealing to young single women to delay and/or avoid marriage, because it played off the most base fear of any young, fertile woman - being "trapped for life" in an institution to a man for which she does not tingle.
Sounds ludicrous? Men are no different.
Ask a man who's married to a fat, ungrateful, and perpetually nagging wife if it feels like slavery as she spends all the money he earns and gives him no respect or recognition (and usually no sex) for providing for her and their children.
The difference is we live in a society for which Women can pull the plug on their discontented married lives, and walk away with all the cash and prizes. The unhappily married man faces the choice of putting up with her and still being with his children....or becoming a semi-weekly visitor paying chili-mony and risking estrangement from his offspring. As Ian Ironwood at The Red Pill Room notes:
In attempting to re-write the social rules of marriage, feminism's built-in escape hatch made the effort to work on a marriage a lot harder than ending it. Feminists can become brides pretty easily, thanks to the power of pussy. They can just as easily become ex-wives, with a stroke of a pen. They rarely become "wives" (under the Rectification of Names). So for all of their vaunted empowerment, it seems that feminism insists that an empowered feminist woman can do ANYTHING . . . except be a good wife.
To sum it up, this "Good Wife's Guide" piece of feminist agit-prop expounds on mythical horrors of the past, so as to perpetuate the very real horrors of our current Brave New World Order.
Consider these responses of a typical modern day housewife to the supposed 1950's standards (keep in mind, this is from a Pro-Parenthood website):
1. Prepare yourself for your husband's arrival.
Me: First of all, what makeup? Second, if I had 15 minutes to spare I would probably take a nap.
2. Clear away the clutter.
Me: Cleaning happens once a week. If you want it done more, please hire someone else. Honestly though, my husband does a lot of the cleaning.
3. Honor thy master.
Me: When we were married my friend gave us a magnet that said, "If at first you don't succeed, try it your wife's way." Whether my husband admits this or not, this statement has been proven to be correct more than once. Really though, we work as a team and question each other when necessary.
4. Keep it down!
Me: Noise? What noise? Are you referring to the radio, the dog, the noisy toys, the phone, or our child? I tuned that out a long time ago, please consider doing the same.
5. Always have dinner ready.
Me: Leftovers are in the fridge! Enjoy! To all housewives everywhere, enjoy who you are. Do what you do and do it well.
Whatever she's doing, she's certainly doing it well. He works to pay all the bills AND he does most of the cleaning. If he has any problems with this, why "they work as a team and question each other when necessary!"
This is one thing I notice about TEAM WOMAN. Even when she is TEAM HER MAN, and she's in a happy relationship with a man that she respects and is basically submissive too...if someone were to ask her what she thinks about their relationship, often times she'll brag about they have an "equal" and "fair" relationship.
They too partake of the notion that female submission and Patriarchy are bad things, even if they are actually living it. It's just like how feminists credit everything good in their lives to feminism and the women who "fought for their rights" in earlier eras.
In short, the feminist paradigm is the only "correct" way to view relationships.
As the stay at home mom at the Parent Society website writes, these are "Hilarious lessons on being a good wife."
I'm sure her husband is laughing.
It's quite obvious by her answers that we all know who wears the pants in her household.
This is what modern feminism preaches to married women today. His needs are superfluous and unnecessary...even if he's the one working and paying all the bills so you can stay at home with the kids. Who cares if the house is messy, you look frumpy, the house is chaotic and noisy, and after a long day of hard work, he has to look forward to eating cold left overs in the fridge! None of this has anything to do with being a good wife. That was 1950's era oppression!
Of course, she misses the best piece of advice in that entire meme, is the last point: A good wife always knows her place.
Both figuratively and literally, that would be beneath her husband.