Divorce doubles suicide risk in men.
NEW YORK, Mar 15 (Reuters Health) -- Divorced or separated men are more than twice as likely to commit suicide as men who remain married, a US researcher reports.
But divorce and separation do not appear to affect suicide risk in women, according to Dr. Augustine J. Kposowa, of the University of California at Riverside.
Kposowa examined the link between suicide and marital status using data on nearly 472,000 men and women included in the National Longitudinal Mortality study. Between 1979 and 1989, 545 of these individuals committed suicide.
``Men were nearly 4.8 times as likely to commit suicide as women,'' the researcher writes in the March 15th issue of the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health. Whites were at greater risk of suicide than African Americans, and individuals with household incomes between $5,000 and $9,999 were more likely to commit suicide than others. Suicide rates were also higher in older age groups, especially those aged 65 and older, and in residents of Western states.
In addition, divorce or marital separation more than doubled the risk of suicide in men, whereas in women, marital status was unrelated to suicide.
Kposowa suspects that this difference is related to the social networks men and women form outside their marriages, which may be stronger or more meaningful in women than in men.
``Women have better ways of communicating,'' Kposowa told Reuters Health in an interview. ``They may have more social support networks, friends and relatives that they talk to, whereas men don't have social support networks.''
Kposowa is looking at the data and missing the obvious by resorting to the old canard that "women are the better communicators," and that they "form stronger and more meaningful social networks."
I suspect that this difference is related to a family court system and domestic violence policies that allows a divorcing woman to use the police and the courts to deny access, visitation or even meaningful conversations over the telephone with a man's children.
Than the courts order child support that literally takes more income than the man can survive on, and he cannot pay for his things like property taxes to try and meet his child support obligations - despite not being able to see, talk to or hear from his children.
Soon, faced with the prospect of inevitable homelessness thanks to excessive child support, and slapped with a FIVE YEAR restraining order forbidding any contact with the ex-wife or the pre-adolescent children. FIVE FUCKING YEARS.
When next you're allowed to see your 8 year old daughter, she would be 13?
Men in this situation see no hope in living. So they give up, and take their own life.
It's not because they don't have enough friends, or meaningful social networks.
It's because they are cut off from that which they value more than their own lives: their flesh and blood offspring.
That is why divorced men are far more likely to kill themselves than divorced women.
I've seen this up close and real personal this past week.
My long time high school buddy is now just another statistic.
A statistic that is casually dismissed by gyno-centric researchers as the man's fault for not building up strong enough social networks and the male's inability to "communicate."
My friend had no problem communicating at all. In fact, he communicated extensively. I have now spent hours going through and reading his letters to his enstranged ex-wife. I read his letters to his children who the mother tried her hardest to alienate them from him, despite their very young ages. Most of all, I read his letters to himself, detailing all that he was feeling and experiencing as he went through the slow motion tragedy of being divested of his family and forced into onerous child support servitude so that the mother of his children would not have to go to work to pay for her car maintenance and car insurance. He was going to lose the house he inherited from his deceased parents because he couldn't keep up with the child support and the property taxes...while she lived in her parent's house and received food stamps and welfare.
This shit that we all blog about in the masculine blogosphere? It's very, very, very real.
And very serious. Behind every statistic, there is a story similar to my friend's, and it plays out every single day in this Post-Patriarchal, feminist-warped dystopia.
The system was designed to break us.
Some of us break sooner than others.