Tuesday, April 13, 2010
A Conversation On Child Support Enforcement
I was recently at a party and was in close proximity to a group of women discussing child support issues. It was a pretty serious conversation, as it involved the personal experiences of two of the women in the group.
One was a single mother who broke up with her abusive boyfriend after they had a child, the other, the second-wife whose husband has primary custody of his children from a previous marriage.
The second-wife was relating the struggles they've been enduring in trying to get her husband's ex-wife to pay child support. They've had to file paperwork in triplicate, attend court hearings, badger their case worker and generally constantly fight with the system to try and get the court ordered child support garnished from his ex-wife's paycheck. They've been trying to do this for well over a year, and have yet to see a single dime of child support from the ex-wife.
The single mother was completely bewildered. She couldn't believe how much trouble the second-wife and her husband was going through...she filed her paperwork and the child support agency for Hawaii immediately began to garnish her ex-boyfriend's paychecks and cutting her a monthly check for child support.
Second-wife was asking single-mother how she did it, and all of the women in the group conversation were voicing their bewilderment and puzzlement as to why one found it so easy to get her court-ordered child support checks while the other was having such a hard time getting it.
This is the point where I usually would interject and begin steering the conversation towards the realities of the family court system in today's BraveNewWorldOrder...but this time, I simply smirked and resumed drinking my whiskey, contemplating the topic in quiet consternation.
The answer is plain-as-day as far as I was concerned...there could not be a more obvious case of gender bias.
Yet none of them could figure it out. Eventually the topic of conversation changed, the mystery for them was simply unresolved and relegated to afterthought.
This, I'm afraid, is typical of today's modern women - so plugged into the matrix, they are incapable of seeing realities that manifest right before their own eyes.