Now that it appears the debate between the PUA/MGTOW/MRA blogosphere about Game and it's relevance and morality has cooled down a bit, I would like to reiterate the one point I believe is most relevant for why all men should take an effort to understand Game without trying to marginalize it or write it off as completely erroneous, simply because you object to the morality espoused by the PUA...or that you think Game is a silly, manipulative script that men follow simply to get laid.
To use the Matrix allegory, Game is the Red Pill.
...something happens which makes us question those very rituals we've blindly followed and we are confronted with a choice - shall we take the blue pill and choose to ignore any inconsistencies with our own paradigm which works pretty well, or shall we take the red pill and explore these inconsistencies knowing that it could lead us into a world we aren't familiar with... one that questions the very foundations of our current perspective.
In this context, I think it's perfectly fitting to describe the social engineering by cultural indoctrination and conditioning that has been effected for the last century regarding gender roles and attitudes towards institutions like the Patriarchal nuclear family; the confusion engendered by the "battle of the sexes" and the legal system of sexual/social politics; is all really best described as a mass delusion...an epidemic of blue pill-addiction.
Symptoms of blue pill delusions are ubiquitous, and it manifests itself all over the place. Only the few red pill takers...those that understand the reality of gender relations...are even aware of just how widespread the mass delusion of distorted gender roles is inculcated into mainstream consciousness.
And this is where "Game" comes in. Game is the red pill because it is based on men analyzing what behaviors are attractive to women, and what behaviors are not.
It is the basis for just about all social dynamics amongst any human interaction...why men compete with other men (for access to women)..why women compete for the attention and affection of men they perceive as desirable to other women.
Game is the Red Pill because it deals with understanding the principles of observable truths that are field tested...and these truths are in direct contradiction to the blue pill delusions of preconceived notions regarding gender roles in our BraveNewWorldOrder.
Once we learn of that new paradigm, we can no longer hold the older belief as our truth. Not everyone can deal with this kind of thinking. Many people are perfectly content believing something to be as they've always known it to be, and reject this newer attempt at truth because it's too painful to accept - they've been living their entire life based on this lie and only now they come to discover that the world is not what they thought it was.
Unlike the caricature portrayed by it's detractors, Game is NOT a simple ruse...a routine or a schtick to manipulate or trick women into having sex with men. No, it's about truly understanding social dynamics and the role that social hierarchy plays in any human interaction. Once you have this understanding, you begin to see "THE MATRIX" or false reality of delusions regarding gender relations.
I thought of this as I read the comment section of Dr. Helen's blog post that I cited in my last post on Relationship Dynamics. So many Men weighed in with their comments, unknowingly revealing the depths of their blue pill instilled delusions that contributed to their failures in their relationships.
Here are a few quotes that demonstrate this blue pill effect:
And whenever your woman asks which of two paint colors you prefer, you have to say you don't care. The alternative is surely picking the wrong color and paying dearly for it.
This is blue pill induced paranoia. Fear of "paying dearly" for upsetting a woman. Anyone that even has a rudimentary understanding of Game knows exactly what to do should a woman ask a man to pick a color...
My ex-wife used to love to put me into impossible verbal situations such as, "do you think that (super model) is prettier then me?"
Wrong answer #1: Yes
"You don't think I'm pretty!"
Wrong answer #2: No
So I found myself avoiding talking to her at all.
Taking the blue pill renders many men utterly clueless to the "shit test." And failing these tests are relationship destroyers!
Here a few more comments showing the blue pill-addled mindset:
I do think, however, that women manipulate more. They cry, they feign anger or hurt, they tell you stupid things like "a man doing the dishes is sexy" or "I'll be happy if you ___" (and if you refuse you don't want her to be happy).
Of course, women lie to. Unless, of course, you really believe she's had a headache for 6 solid months or is somehow turned on by a man pushing a vacuum.
I'm a good guy. I don't cheat or go places I shouldn't or do things I shouldn't or drink too much or any of that stuff. I have nothing to hide from my wife, but I have learned the hard way that if I tell my wife the truth about certain things -- especially my feelings if they're at all negative -- then I'd better be prepared for two or three weeks of significant pain.
Helen is right. I want to be a truthful person with my wife, but it just isn't worth the hassle -- especially since she's made it so clear that she really doesn't want to hear the truth.
No offense, but sometimes women are just plain scary.
Are you beginning to see the common thread here? How the blue pill mindset has left so many men so clueless about how to deal with their wives and/or girlfriends? All of these preceding examples are Men who are afraid of their wive's emotional state.
For the majority of husbands, they married a woman who they could communicate with and formed an allegiance. Her attitude became far less tolerant and hostile after. (There are many reasons for this that I won't go into here.)
To rethink his attitude may invite a firestorm into his home. To rethink his allegiance will cost him dearly--he'll lose his children, and quite possibly pay huge bucks for his wife to move someone else in.
Your advice would be great if the laws were not so biased in favor of women. Men have much to lose and little to gain by standing their ground. Women have much to gain and little to lose by villainizing their husbands and divorcing him.
I get this impression that there exists a commonly held notion amongst MRA that ever since feminists got no-fault divorce legislated, all women have taken to it with great gusto, simply because they can...that the laws give women gold digging powers, and they take advantage of it simply because it appeals to women's greed, and they will happily destroy the lives of their husbands and children to sate that lust for greed.
I beg to differ. There's much more to it than that.
Because if a married man stands up for himself in today's climate, he could very well find himself put out of his own house, paying over a substantial chunk of his paycheck to his ex-wife, and seeing the kids when (and if) she decides that.
This is what I call the Emasculation Paradox.
Many men today seem to think that the legal system is set up to give all the women the power in marriage...so they'd better cede it to her to avoid upsetting her so that she doesn't take you into divorce court hell. But the paradox is that a man who understands the reality, also understands that STANDING UP FOR HIMSELF is the ONLY WAY his wife CAN respect, admire, lust and love him.
You really shouldn't worry about upsetting her. She's a woman. She gets upset as surely as the sun rises in the East. What you you have to worry about, is turning into someone she doesn't respect...and patronizing her because you are afraid of her emotional state is the fastest path to losing that respect.
When contemplating why we now have over 70% of women who initiate no fault divorces, there's much more to it than simply because all women are greedy, slutty, or adulterous simply because that is the nature of modern, Western women. Yes, there are most certainly a segment of the female gender that is in fact materialistic gold digging manipulators. But I don't think it's quite a stretch to simply say that the 70+% of women that initiate their divorces do so because of a greedy, materialistic nature.
No, you HAVE to account for the social engineering of our BraveNeWorldOrder on BOTH genders into account when trying to understand just why so many women "change" for the worse by getting bitchy, nagging, fat and absolutely contemptuous of their husbands after they get married...and why men that used to be bold, assertive and confident when they were dating, fall into the relationship dynamic where they are the pussywhipped, cowed and beaten wimps absolutely crushed under a domineering harridan of a wife.
In short, it's nothing more than a blue pill overdose. Taking the red pill will open your eyes to the reality of the female sex drive and how it's basis on the principle of hypergamy dictates her behavior. It provides a solid understanding of exactly why women on an instinctual level, require men to be the dominant leaders in the relationship. Whenever a man fails to fulfill that role, the relationship begins it's death spiral towards oblivion.
Attraction is not an intellectual vocation. This is why "marriage counseling" usually doesn't work. No matter how many logical reasons there are for a woman to be happy in her marriage...if she has that visceral contempt for the man that turned into a "Beta" in the marriage bed and impregnated her with his inferior seed, she cannot control how she FEELS about that. Because by him "becoming" beta, she only feels disgusting contempt for him in her gut.
This epidemic of blue pill delusion that doesn't recognize this basic understanding of female attraction is why I believe so many women turn into the proverbial psycho ex-wife.
It's women's basic biological nature to seek dominant genes for her offspring. Yet too many men beta-ize when they get married, submit to their wives as their authority figure, and even if she THINKS it's perfectly fine to be the dominant one...that she is just exercising "equality," her basic instinct is to have utter contempt for a man that she can rule.
This is precisely why so many men seem dumbfounded that the sweet loving girlfriend they married turned into an uncaring psychopath without a shred of mercy or decency in dragging him through the divorce court system and all of it's vagaries and indignities it inflicts ...THIS occurs because for the most part, because both of them failed to follow their natural gender roles, and the very nature of her sexual instinct -- hypergamy -- makes her regard him as a sub-human creature of utter contempt.
It is the very premise for the "game" routine that Roissy and other PUA call Marry Shag Kill
You have to understand why women have this curdled reaction to betas deep in their bones. If a man spills his seed in the wrong woman, no biggie. He can still bang other women and fulfill his genetic programming. If a woman gets her eggs polluted by the feeble seed of a beta, she’s stuck for nine months, and probably longer.
This is why there are so many cases of these women feel justified and entitled into getting the most they can from a divorce settlement...even if she's the spouse that ended up breaking her marital vows.
By the time you are being taken to the cleaners, she is merely carrying through with the legally accepted means of playing the very real version of marry/shag/kill...with you being the Beta Sap she "kills."
I've come to realize this when I've thought long and hard about almost all of the failed marriages and relationships that I know of throughout my life. I can think of no exceptions in the cases where the female ended the relationship. It always happened after the man no longer fulfilled the leadership role her biological imperative requires.
The cultural indoctrination of our BraveNewWorldOrder -- the blue pill culture -- encourages these relationship malfunctions in every conceivable way. It's memes and shibboleths are ceaselessly pushed by our mass media driven popular culture to try and ensnare as many men and women to fall into this devious trap as possible. It is a population control agenda at it's most subversive.
To put it succinctly: The blue pill encourages masculine behavior in women and feminine behavior in men.
It encourages women to strive to hold all of the power in a relationship dynamic, and encourages men to cede that power to the women.
By promoting the ubiquitous culture of misandry, and making everyone strive for the unattainable goal of "equality," they push men and women to act out in ways that are contrary to our natural gender roles, thereby effecting an epidemic of "beta-ization."
Feminist lobbying for No-fault divorce was the mechanism for the BraveNewWorldOrder to attack the nuclear family; to re-make society by first destroying it's foundation...but it wouldn't have been nearly as effective if it were done without the social engineering that promotes contrary gender role behavior...empowered women and emasculated men.