Divorce Court Programming

As a young boy in the 80's, I was your typical American latch-key kid who's parents both worked and the Tell-A-Vision was my after school brave new world order indoctrination machine babysitter. Around my early pre-teen years, I became a daily watcher of the TV show, Divorce Court, presided over by the honorable Judge William Keene. I watched that show at 3:30pm every single day after school for probably two or three years. Winston Smith over at The Ministry of Truth Wikipedia, describes the mid-80's era of the show in their entry for Divorce Court*:

While touted as presenting real cases to television audiences, the stories from earlier versions of Divorce Court were actually re-enactments of divorce cases presented by actors.
Actors portrayed the litigants - the plaintiff, who initiated the divorce proceedings; the defendant, who either sought a reconciliation or sought a divorce decree of his/her own; and a number of witnesses, who testified on behalf of one of the litigants. Meanwhile student attorneys would argue the cases.

Each episode followed a basic formula, as follows:

- Each attorney giving opening statements.

- The litigants, along with one or two supporting witnesses, giving their side of the story and enduring cross-examination.

- Closing arguments.

- The judge's decision, followed by appropriate reactions by each side.

Many of the stories had standard marital issues: mental and/or physical abuse, adultery, desertion and other irreconcilable differences. As with most courtroom-based television programs through the ages (and to keep audiences interested), the stories were hardly the sort of the unloved wife's affair with the milkman or the husband's meddlesome mother interfering with and ultimately ruining the marriage. Rather, Divorce Court tended to present more sensational cases with "shock value."

Oh yes, watching the Tell-A-Vision day after day certainly made me believe I knew what the American Family Court system was all about.

Judge William Keene was very fair, impartial, level-headed, and he took no shit from men and women alike. He kept an orderly court and his rulings were reasonable and most times the viewer couldn't argue with the outcomes he adjudicated.

I recall many tales of adultery, cruelty, abandonment, child abuse, spousal rape, physical abuse, theft all played out in a 30 minute show....and it exposed my adolescent mind to the various vagaries of human behaviors that both men and women engage in that bring about the failure of their marriage.

I remember episodes in which a wife who slept with her husband's brother lost custody and was ordered to pay all the court fees.

I remember episodes in which the wife with held sex from her husband for several years and lost the case due to abandonment. Husband got the money, house and alimony payments.

Of course there were plenty of cases in which the husband was an abusive asshole or a philandering dirt bag, and they too got their just rewards at the drop of Judge Keene's hammer. All these hours of passively watching "dramatic portrayals of real life cases" had to have certainly shaped my ignorant and naive view of the family court system in this country.

The Tell-A-Vision sure gave me a vision.

I had been told to think that Divorce in the 1980's in America, was a case of equal justice before the law. That if as Husband or a Wife, you broke your marital vows, then you got your just desserts, and the unfairly victimized spouse got vindication and compensation. Of course it works like that! This is the land of the free and the home of the brave! We have the greatest country on the face of the Earth! Our legal system is the envy of the world! Democracy and checks and balances ensures that courts will impartially render justice without regards to race, religion, sexual orientation or gender!

All through my teens and early 20's, this was my view of marriage and divorce and the family destroyer court system.

If someone I knew had parents who divorced, it HAD to be because one or the other did something dastardly and the other spouse righteously received justice in the court of law.

Then I experienced a real up close and personal insight into how Divorce REALLY works in our Brave New World Order when close friends and families went through the meat grinder.

According Winston Smith's entry on No Fault Divorce over at the Ministry of Truth:

No-fault divorce statutes were first enacted in 1969 in California; South Dakota was the last state to allow no-fault divorce, in 1985.

In other words, his-fault No-fault Divorce had become the legal standard in all 50 States by the time the 80's era of this popular daytime Tell-A-Vision show began it's run.


I had no concept whatsoever about what No-Fault divorce really meant...until I saw my ex-Aunt run off with a motorcycle thug, leaving the kids with my uncle....AND STILL she got custody, child support, alimony when the Divorce was finalized two years later.

Wait a minute?

Shouldn't the Hawaii family court's equivalent to Judge Keene, look at the facts of the case and easily see that my ex-Aunt broke her marital vows, had an affair and abandoned her family....yet she got to unilaterally end her marriage and get cash, prizes and custody?


This is where my Uncle explained to me what "No-Fault" divorce was....or at least how his attorney explained it to him. If the man does something, it can and will be used against him in a kangaroo court of the family destroying arm of the law. If the woman does something...why, it's NO FAULT DIVORCE!

Prior to that, I really did believe the portrayal of Divorce Court TV was really how Divorces worked in this country. I had no idea Divorce Court TV in the 80's was a television show about At-Fault Divorce. But it only began it's daily syndicated Network Tell-A-Vision run after No-Fault Divorce became the standard M.O. in all 50 States.

I now believe Divorce Court TV was deliberate, subversive  PROGRAMMING designed to indoctrinate men into thinking that there was nothing to fear from the Divorce Court system if they were not abusive cheaters, and just hard working husbands who did their duty and provided for their families. Besides, all the billable hours of the attorneys and expert witnesses, and the salaries of the court employees all depend on enough men getting married first, so that they can then pay for their services when they get divorced....

Divorce? What, me worry? If she cheats,
Judge Keene will make sure she gets what deserves!

 

* Ever since Wikipedia's Editors saw fit to erase the page for Thomas Ball's family court protest by self-immolation, I have resolved to no longer link them in blogging or commentary.

No Shit

Here's a great little vignette of Election 2012 Propaganda that is about 99% factual:

Free Shit

CAN THE USA SURVIVE GIVEN THE FOLLOWING?

The folks who are getting free shit, don’t like the folks who are paying for the free shit, because the folks who are paying for the free shit can no longer afford to pay for both the free shit and their own shit.

The folks who are paying for the free shit want the free shit to stop, and the folks who are getting the free shit want even more free shit on top of the free shit they are already getting!

Now… The people who are forcing the people to pay for the free shit have told the people who are RECEIVING the free shit, that the people who are PAYING for the free shit, are being mean, prejudiced.

So… The people who are GETTING the free shit have been convinced they need to hate the people who are paying for the free shit by the people who are forcing some people to pay for their free shit, and giving them the free shit in the first place.

We have let the free shit giving go on for so long that there are now more people getting free shit than paying for the free shit.

Now understand this. All great democracies have committed financial suicide somewhere between 200 and 250 years after being founded.

The reason? The voters figured out they could vote themselves money from the treasury by electing people who promised to give them money from the treasury in exchange for electing them.
Thomas Jefferson said it best: “The democracy (Republic) will cease to exist when you take away from those who are willing to work and give to those who would not.”

The United States officially became a Republic in 1776, 236 years ago .

The number of people now getting free shit outnumbers the people paying for the free shit.

BRAVO! AMEN! HALLELUJAH! SPEAK IT BROTHER! THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT IS WRONG....

....oh wait, you're not done?

We have one chance to change that On Nov 6th, 2012 .

Failure to change that spells the end of the United States as we know it.

ELECTION 2012 IS COMING
A Nation of Sheep Breeds a Government of Wolves!

Pffffffffffftttttt.

I was gonna write my own screed...then I remembered. Been there, done that already.

Commenter ncognito1959  was even more succinct:

I would like to know what we can really change in this next election, given that it is either Romney or The Big O?

With dems we get butter & guns, with repubs we get guns & butter.

Free shit is dispersed in more places than just social programs.

Donkeys or Pachyderms? Escape the zoo.

It really doesn't matter one whit if Oromney the Republicat wins or if Robama the Democan wins. Voting in our Brave New World Order is the equivalent to flipping a coin. No matter which side comes up, it's heads they win, tails we lose.


(h/t to The Humble Libertarian)

Virtual Disconnection

Originally published in bad faith...
 

To become men, young boys must develop and mature through experience.  They must learn skills and develop talents to reach their full potential for having a productive life.  They must become something.

Men are made like steel. We must experience the fire of the forge, take a beating, and emerge stronger, harder and ready for sharpening.

“No pain, no gain” may sound like nothing more than a trite old maxim used to get people to do something they really don’t want to…but it’s especially true for boys attempting to become men.

You can only know your true self worth, if you find out what your limitations are, reach that limit and than keep striving to exceed them.

You can only become tough by getting the hell beat out of you.


Fortitude, endurance and stamina are developed by continually pushing your boundaries to see how far you can actually push yourself to achieve something.

This is where self-esteem (the real kind) and confidence come from. You’ve done it before, you can certainly do it again if you had to.

This is why most cultures around the world had some sort of test, challenge or some kind of painful endurance ceremony or test of physical and mental strength for young men.

Things have changed…and for most, not for the better.

Young men used to feel inspired by a song heard on the radio, to go and buy a guitar and attempt to learn how to play it. They wanted to be that guy up on stage, playing to an adoring crowd, and all the female attentions that come with being a famous musician.

To anyone who’s ever begun attempting to play the guitar, you know all about burning finger tips and cramping hands from fretting chords repeatedly for hours on end to master the multitude of techniques to play music.

Who needs all that practice now?

Now, you can now just turn on the liquid crystal flat screen, fire up the gaming console, sling the plastic guitar and furiously hit the five colored buttons in patterns timed to the latest pop rock music, and you too could be virtually headlining Madison Square Garden with your virtual Rock band!

Then, when the show is over, Internet porn and some lube will give you all the virtual groupie action you can handle! ROCK ON DUDE!

Who needs high school football practice in the heat, risking injury, exhaustion and pain…when you can be indoors, sitting, on the couch, gorging on snack feed and gulping carbonated corn syrup, while playing in the Superbowl in your 5th season with your favorite team in Franchise mode?

Isn’t skateboarding cool? Why bother with scabbed knees, busted shins and broken arms that comes from practicing at the neighborhood skate park, when I can rip off 720′s on a half-pipe and do hand-plants and rail slides…risk free and all without leaving the comfort of the living room!

Who needs messy, and painful experiences of life, when the virtual life is so much easier to attain success in with only a minimal amount of pain-free, comfortable effort?

Remember the old Timothy Leary quote, which became the catch phrase of the LSD sub-culture: “Turn on, tune in, drop out?”

In today’s Brave New World Order, it’s morphed into: Turn on the media, tune in to your preferred virtual experience, and drop out of real life.

Sadly, I know a number of young men who most certainly DO need to “man up” and turn off their game consoles and start finding ways to live a real life, not a virtual one.

Many folks in this corner of teh interwebz object to any calls made by anyone to “man up” as using nothing but shaming language to get men to do whatever they want for their own benefit and not for the benefit of the man or men being shamed.

Not here.

This is shaming language trying to shame young men into behaving for their own benefit.

If you are a young man reading this, can you look yourself in the mirror and honestly feel good about any real life achievements you’ve obtained by overcoming adversity…or have you wasted too much of your time becoming a virtual success?

Scrip Wages & the Company Store

Remember the Golden Rule? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you? Or perhaps you're familiar with the more cynical version...He who has the gold, makes the rules?

Neither of these have anything to do with the way things really work under the present regime in our Brave New World Order. The Golden Rule is now a mere footnote in the pages of our perpetually revised history books.

We live under a new paradigm: He Who Creates the Debt Based Fiat Currency, Makes the Rules.

But this is nothing new. It's actually based on an even older game the moneyed elite has always played to maintain their status as the 1% living off of the labor of the 99%: Heads I win, Tails You Lose.

This game has a storied tradition that makes it as American as apple pie. It's a system developed over centuries, and has been refined, modified and improved over trial and error until it has grown into the leviathan that has it's tentacles in nearly every aspect of our lives.

The 1% now profit off of us all, every single day of our increasingly policed and regulated existence.

How did they accomplish this covert enslavement of We the Sheeple, Western Civilization's 99%? By extrapolating the concept of scrip wages for use only at the company store, globally.

The company store proliferated in coal mining, lumber, and textile company towns as the South industrialized in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. In the industrial village it was the central, often the only, retail store available to residents. It was owned by the company, as were the houses, saloons, and other buildings. Modeled in part on the earlier British ‘‘truck system,’’ where laborers exchanged their labor for food, fuel, and clothing, company stores in the United States initially were justified as necessities since companies had to provide provisions to workers in the remote towns. Yet companies maintained and defended their control of stores well after an efficient transportation network had emerged.

And why wouldn't they? These companies had figured out a way to profit off of their workers in two different ways:

 By requiring employes to do business at the company store, lumber barons realized a profit on consumption as well as production of workers. These stores also did business with the public.

These "company stores" utilized an ingenious method of exploiting the working man. If only they could figure out a way to make one huge, gigantic company store in which everything any citizen could need or want always results in profits for the company.

With the creation of a Central Bank system in 1913, and the allowance of the Central Bank's cartel members to to have fractional reserve-based debt creation powers, and then finally removing the monetary system from the gold standard, our National currency has become nothing more than scrip wages, with our entire economy having been covertly incorporated into becoming the world's largest company store.

The cornerstone of the company store, looks like this:

Scrip wages are the debt the various outlets of the store create for we, the workers, out of thin air. In the days before computers, the scrip wages were created as ledger entries in an accounting book.

Nowadays, it's just a few strokes on the company store representatives keyboard, and voila, you can now get your equifax approved scrip wages -- a promise of payment with your future labor -- to buy some good or service. A car, a house, a college education, or worse yet, to pay off your other scrip wages you have already previously spent (consolidating your credit card debts), to achieve the lifestyle you've become accustomed to you're entitled to.

No matter what you spend your scrip wages on to procure some product or service, the entity you are purchasing it from, is also funded by the same company-issued scrip wages.

The company store has achieved almost complete monopoly on we the sheeple's economic activities. Everything we buy, everything we pay to do, every service we hire...all of it, results in generating usurious profit for the owners of the store.

We the sheeple will never be free, until find a way to put this company store out of business.

Palm-Zombie Apocalypse

I've traveled all over SWPL-stan this Summer.

No matter where I went -- Los Angeles, Las Vegas, San Francisco, Phoenix, Seattle...THEY were everywhere!

THEY LIVE!

I also found growing populations of them already established in third-world, poverty-stricken places like Baja and Jalisco...

¡Viva la palma-zombie apocalipsis!

North and Central America have been invaded! In the cities, suburbs, villages and towns....

B3W4R3!!

...on the trains, buses, trolleys and ferries....

...loading...loading...loading...

...in the parks, restaurants, eateries....

Another Fine Dining Experience...

...in the bars and pubs...

Let's Party!

...and even while hiking in the woods...

Aaaahhh...enjoying the Great Outdoors!

I returned to my island home in the middle of the Pacific Ocean, and I see THEY have invaded my shores as well...

4L0H4!

Actually, they've been here for awhile, I just never really noticed how bad it was before, 'til I gained perspective from my travels...

SURFS UP!

It's a Brave New World.

 

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Lamentations of the Nice Guy

Why do you have to be so upset all the time?

What should I do? What would you like me to do?

Yes, Dear.

Would you like to do this? How about that?

Please, Hon?

What do you mean you can't do this anymore?

I'm sorry.

What do you mean you're unhappy? How can I make you happy?

Can I call you tomorrow?

Would you like to have sex tonight? Why not? PLEASE?!?!

Girls night out? I hope you have fun with the girls then!

I'm so sorry!

If it will make you happy, than I'll do it.

But I had plans! I made you a nice dinner, and picked up a good bottle of wine and I rented that movie you wanted to see and...... ah well, that's okay. Don't worry about it. You go out and have fun, I'll just save the food in the fridge and reheat it for you tomorrow. Don't worry about, it's not a big deal...I understand the sale ends tomorrow and you and your friends need to take advantage of it while it's so cheap. Have fun, and know that I'll be thinking of you while you girls are shopping! Love you!

Would you like this one, or would you like that one?

Will you accept my apology?

If you don't like it, I have the receipt so that you can return it and get something you do like!

Would you like to hear this song your beauty inspired me to write for you?

I'll make it up to you...I PROMISE!

What do you think about this? Is it good? Do you like it? Maybe you'll like it better if did this instead?

What should we do today?

How come you never want to have sex anymore? 

Why won't you accept my apology?

Wow, he's such a jerk! Why do your friends always go out with guys like that?

Should we go to counseling?

Can I go fishing with Dave this weekend? PLEASE?!?!

Would you like me to hold your purse for you?

Will you make love to me?

Sure I'll get your tampons for you....which brand do you prefer? Absorbent or Super-Absorbent? Do you need any pads, too?

Where do you want to go? What would you like to eat?

OF COURSE you don't look fat in those jeans!

I feel like we need to work on our communication skills. I feel like we don't have meaningful conversations anymore, and I really want us to become more intimate.

Would it be okay if I go surfing with Joe tomorrow? I'll be back in time so we can do something...

NO, I was NOT looking at her!

Okay, I'll sell it or give it away...I don't really need it.

I'm sorry.

Anything you want...I'll do it!

What do you mean I always lie? I do NOT!

Do you love me as much as I love you?

Would you like to hear this poem I wrote for you?

Steve is having his bachelor party this weekend. Don't worry though, I'm not going, as there will be strippers there and I know how you don't want me to be around things like that. Don't worry, it's okay, he'll understand. Yeah, we've been friends since elementary school, but he knows how important our relationship is and that I would never disrespect you like that!

You are the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth!

How can we make our relationship better?

Can you please kiss me?

I'm sorry....

Do you need help with that?

Yes, it's my fault...again. I'm sorry.

Would you like me to....

Hey....I said I'm sorry!

Please don't hang up on me....hello? HELLO?!?!?

Oh the painful recollections of my former self and how I lived a life walking on eggshells and fearful dishonesty.

I was just trying to be the Nice Guy. The archetype of the supposed type of guy women say they want.

Trying to do and be all the things a man is supposed to, to make the relationship work. Being sensitive to her needs. Striving to please her, and make sure to avoid upsetting her as much as possible.

Checking with her on everything.

Constantly asking for reassurance that she was happy. Constantly asking for her approval.

Making sure I was trying not to do anything that would upset her. This included telling a lot of "white" lies to try and avoid upsetting her. Striving to be supportive.

To let her needs, wants and desires supersede my own at every potential conflict.

This is precisely how guys slide into attraction killing "Beta-tude." How they regress in a relationship that started out hot and heavy, and end up sexless and constantly in conflict. As Rollo relates in his latest post on his own experience in his first serious relationship as a young man:

I was sitting in her dorm room wondering just what the hell had happened to the sexualized, happy, and indifferent Alpha junior-rockstar I had been just a few years prior. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I’d gone from idealistic teenager, to organic Alpha, to a defeated, needy beta on a dangerously close slide into omega-tude.

This is what happens when men get into a relationship and they slide into a mindset in which they are afraid of the female's emotional moods. Afraid of her disapproval, and having no confidence in anything they do in trying to please her or have a relationship with her. When men fall into this relationship dynamic, she WILL lose attraction for you.

This post was inspired in part by an exchange between van Rooinek and Doomed Harlot over at Dalrock's:

Doomed Harlot: I guess I just don’t understand the “nice guy” mindset here…. I have never understood the attitude that being nice entitles you to something from women.


van Rooinek: That attitude does not exist And the fact that you would pose this question, tells me that you have NO understanding whatsoever, as to what is going on here. So let me explain it to you simply.
It is not about unattractive guys assuming that niceness can overcome lack of attraction.

(That’s projection — only women…, rather, a subset of women… believe that. NO men do.)


It is not about “entitlement”. (That may be an aspect of female projection too…?)


This is about normal guys who have a lot going for them, physically, educationally, careerwise, etc, and who have (on the advice of parents, church, female “friends”, etc), treated women with kindness, respect, and consideration….. and are rejected BECAUSE OF that kindness, respect, and consideration!

van Rooinek's background as he's related over the course of many comments at Dalrock's is interesting. As a serious Christian man who wanted to get married and have children, he found it next to impossible to date the ladies in his Church, and remained a virgin until he finally got married at the age of 38. He blames it partially on all these ladies constantly rejecting him as a nice guy, while going after bad boys, thugs and jerks.

Unlike Rollo's experience, where he was Alpha in the beginning of the relationship and then found himself having slumped into deference and fallen into her persistent contempt, it looks like van Rooinek was in deference and approval seeking mode right out of the gate with every girl he tried to date.
 
Later in their debate, Doomed Harlot finally seems to understand the point van Rooinek was trying to make:

But I will say that women want RELATIONSHIPS. I’ve dated a few “nice guys” and many of them seem to think that the key to a woman’s heart is constant deference. In reality, I would rather have a man joke around with me, or tell me if he thinks I’m wrong about something, than squelch his real personality in order to try to ingratiate himself. I’m not saying that’s what you were doing, but I’ve seen it. Sometimes things like “chivalry” for example, can get in the way of a man actually relating to a woman.

This is precisely it. What womyn like Doomed Harlot fail to comprehend is this: where do guys get this idea from? Where does this template of how relationships are "supposed" to work like, come from?  Why do guys fall into this pattern of supplication and deference when their relationship did not start out that way?


In short, the blue pill.

This is the projection of a false reality reinforced over and over again in men's minds by our mass media driven, socially engineered, gynocentric culture. We are programmed to avoid becoming the stereotype of the ridiculously macho man. The archetype of the "insecure male trying to compensate for having a small dick." We are programmed to "get in touch with our feelings" and avoid being the insensitive Neanderthal brute. The last thing we want to be, we are told, is A TYPICAL MALE.

This is where the "nice guy" comes from.

In the case of a guy like van Rooinek, secular society's 'nice guy' meme's are doubly reinforced by a feminist subverted Christianity (aka Churchianity,) that focuses on male sexuality as sinful and debased, while holding up women as the moral arbiters of sexual purity and spiritual superiority. van Rooinek was not just a nice guy, he was a Christian nice guy...a double dose of deference to the female imperative. No wonder so many young men no longer attend church regularly across the Western world.

This is also why many Men don't find relationship success unless they discover the game-changer that is the red pill, especially Christian men.