This is why Marriage in decline in the West...the mentality that the female is entitled to all the benefits of a male spouse to provide for her and her children...but does not even have a clue about her marital responsibilities to meet her husband's needs.
Sorry, but Marriage and Sex DON'T Go Together
Carrie Jones hasn't had sex with her husband Hal, a City banker, for the past four years. Nor does she want to. Sex is something she can no longer summon the effort to endure - with the man she married, at least.
She admits she stays in her sexless relationship for the sake of her children, aged nine and 11, and will remain celibate until the day they are grown up and she feels able to leave. At which point, she confesses, she will probably abandon her husband and begin a sexual odyssey to find the satisfaction that eludes her.
Hopefully, her husband grows a pair and dumps her before she gets the chance to leave him.
"I've made my choice. For now I'm caught up in marriage's net, bound up with responsibilities to my children. My interest in sex with the person I was supposed to be closest to has died. I could leave but for now I'll wait because of the desolation it would wreak on my family.
Oh how admirable of you...
"I want to maintain the family unit because it makes other things possible, like doing things together with the children. But one day, when they are older and I can think about my own needs again, I may leave and start all over again.
Other things possible...like having her sorry sap wage slave of a husband pay for everything, give her everything she needs, while she feels NO sense of obligation to the man that is fulfilling his role. This is the mindset of female entitlement at it's worst, and it's THE reason why modern marriage in the west is in so much trouble.
"Like most successful long-term partnerships, our relationship wasn't built on sex or passion. At best, sex was simply fine."
But even the "fine" sex Carrie recalls was soon replaced by despondency once the couple's first child was born.
Oh yes, once the ATM and sperm donor functions were performed, her husband is now almost useless to her.
"I did the middle-class mother thing in a big way," she says. "I gave up my career, breast-fed each child for a year and spent my days in a dizzy whirl of playgroups and coffee mornings.
"I'd flipped from wife to mother, and it gave me excuses - often genuine - to cold-shoulder my husband's sexual advances. He knew I was tired from the children and was always very understanding. He's an unusually kind and tolerant man." Indeed he must be.
Nah. He's either banging prostitutes or lovers on the side...or he's a total mangina pathetically masturbating to relieve himself and hoping to one day "recapture" his wife's desire.
Certainly, once the first flush of love and lust gives way to familiarity, domesticity and parenthood, few would argue that making love is the wanton adventure it was. But Carrie goes one step further. She believes that marriage and motherhood are simply not conducive to having a sex life at all.
"Providing a stable home for children is totally incompatible with having an exciting sex life. The two things are violently at odds," she adds.
This woman is clueless. If she were married to a man with an ounce of self-respect, she would find herself a single mother post-haste. A strong sexual bond between a husband and wife is the true glue that holds a marriage together to create the kind of happy and loving home that is best to rear children in. She is obviously naive, ignorant and stupid if she thinks her children are going to grow up in a sexless marriage household and not pick up on the non-verbal communications and atmosphere, and how such dynamics are going to screw up any normal sense for her children to learn what a true, loving relationship is supposed to look like. She is consigning her children to years of a frustrated, resentful and most likely bitter husband poisoning the atmosphere in their home, while teaching them to view their future partners with contempt and utter selfishness
For when asked whether she worries that Hal may seek sexual gratification elsewhere, she says: "I'm not concerned. I don't think that would happen. It's not Hal's fault that I wish to remain celibate; it's nothing he's said or done. He's a good man and a great dad. It's just that I don't want to be intimate with him any more."
What a sad, disgusting woman.
Before the advent of "no-fault" divorce, this frigidity was called "abandonment" and a man could rightfully give this frigid bitch the boot without losing half his wealth and custody of the children.
No wonder marriage is in such a severe decline in the West.