Well, much of society has ignored that canary’s reaction to the experiment of the “GREAT SOCIETY,” and we now see the same thing infecting all corners of our most-assuredly declining Western Civilization. Look in any white trailer park, or any other community across the country that is largely poverty stricken and is predominantly composed of single mother households on welfare, you will see the same pathologies of a matriarchal-modeled community. The same thing is apparent even here in Hawaii – the same kind of projects and ghettos can be seen amongst areas of the State that are welfare dependent ghettos. Wherever we see single mother households as the majority of “family” units, you will find the “Cycle of Poverty” is evident.
However, like most Christian-based articles concerning the travesty and tragedy of single mother households and it’s overall effect on society as a whole, there is certain elements in his piece that are certainly oblivious to the insights those of us who have studied Game and social hierarchy’s role in mating and dating…so here’s a “Fisking” of his article. While I agree wholeheartedly with the big picture, I believe there are few minor errors that needs to be corrected…
(Note that Pastor Tripplett provides plenty of links to back up his sources…visit the original article if you’re interested in following up on anything he cites.)
Raising Boys Wrong…
In the state of Georgia, as in most urban areas, two thirds of the Black children born, are born to unwed mothers. Most of those boys will grow up to be unproductive men in our society. For irrefutable proof one only needs to examine:
In the state of Georgia, as in most urban areas, two thirds of the Black children born, are born to unwed mothers. Most of those boys will grow up to be unproductive men in our society. For irrefutable proof one only needs to examine:
* The high school drop out rate amongst boys from single-family homes.
* The incarceration statistics for boys raised by single moms.
* The mass number of single mothers who have trained their boys to devalue and disrespect the entire female gender
* The incarceration statistics for boys raised by single moms.
* The mass number of single mothers who have trained their boys to devalue and disrespect the entire female gender
Am I blaming society’s ills on single mothers? No! Am I attacking or demonizing single mothers? A thousand times no!
I am dealing with a critical issue
that has devastated multiple generations. One that has not been properly
dealt with for too long. I have watched this particular group of single
mothers reek havoc and sow seeds of discord in the lives of countless
children.
Amen, Pastor.
I had one incident in which a woman, (I’ll call Racine ) was dating a man, she got pregnant by him and they moved in together.
Like many women who give themselves to
dishonorable men, Racine assumed that she could change him and that he
would eventually marry her. She was so convinced of her abilities to
alter his conduct, that she got pregnant, AGAIN! You should know that
Racine was in the church while this disgraceful chain of events took
place. After their second child, her live-in boyfriend just up and left.
He coldly and calculatedly abandoned her and both of their kids.
Here’s the first bit of “So-Con” rationalization. See how he basically positions his example as simply a woman done wrong…her intentions were noble, she was trying to “save” her boyfriend, but this “cold and calculating” scum bag abandoned them.
Pastor, what we have here is a classic case of a CHURCH GOING WOMAN chasing a known “bad boy” and basically thinking with her ‘gina tingles instead of her head. Come now, give her an equal share of the responsibility here: she CHOSE an irresponsible guy to impregnate her, not once, but twice. She is not a victim here. She is an active participant in perpetuating the cycle of poverty by creating yet another single mother household.
Her means of getting revenge against
her ex was to physically abuse both their children. She would do things
such as force them to sit outside in the freezing cold for hours at a
time. She would choke her older son, ( I’ll call Joseph ) while swearing
at him and cursing his father. Because of her physically and verbally
abusive behavior, Joseph learned to hate females.
Because of how his mother abused him and his little brother, Joseph detests the female gender with an unforgiving passion.
Ah yes. Thanks to the society wide acceptance and subsidization of the single mother household, another Misogynist is born!
Like his mother had been drilling in
his ears for years, he followed in the footsteps of his father. He got a
female pregnant while in high school, but instead of abandoning her and
baby like his dad, he married her. Not because he loved her, but to
prove his mother wrong. Joseph had taken on the same vengeful and
abusive spirit as his mom. In less than two weeks
after saying, “I do!” he physically assaulted his new bride. He has been
abusing her ever since. Even at my behest, his wife refused to file
charges. She felt as though she could change him.
Pastor, pastor, pastor…”SHE FELT” is nothing more than the rationalization hamster wheel furiously churning in her brain. It’s how she justifies to herself why she stays involved with an abusive guy… because he makes her ‘gina tingle.
Their little girl will be 5-years-old
in 2004 and Joseph has never held a conversation with her because of
distrust and hatred of all females. The only things he has said to his
daughter is, “Shut up! Didn’t I tell you… No! Sit down and, go get me
a…”
Joseph kicked her across the room one
night when she attempted to stop him from physically assaulting her
mother. Did you comprehend what you just read? You just read how
generational curses are started. Even worse, Joseph’s daughter is a
likely candidate to believe that all men are dogs and become an angry
Black female.
Depends. If Joseph and her mother stay together all throughout her childhood, she may instead grow up to actively seek out an abusive thug that makes her ‘gina tingle like her mom, and repeat the pattern of putting up with physical and mental abuse as long as she is excited by his thuggish behavior.
What you are reading are not
aberrations. These incidents happen everyday. I could share with you so
many other cases and incidents such as the large number of single
mothers who for various reasons refuse to divulge to their kids who
their true biological father are. These women don’t realize how their
callous insensitivity has damaged their children.
Ah, but Pastor, you’re forgetting the number one response to pointing out any single instance of a woman behaving badly: Not All Women Are Like That!
Some of you will read this article and
say, “What about the things the men are doing and why didn’t you
mention how daughters are affected when they don’t have a dad?” I’ll
deal with the dishonorable men, deadbeat dads and daughters in another
session. I cannot cover all of life’s issues in one article. Right now,
our focus is the ten harmful things certain single mothers do to ruin
their son’s lives.
Save it, Pastor. There’s no need to go over how dastardly and dishonorable deadbeat dad’s are. We already live in a culture and society for which our mainstream media and entire cable TV channels are dedicated to never letting us forget how Men are the problem, and single mothers are heroic martyrs and paragons of self-sacrifice.
Nevertheless, on with the list:
1. Do You Poison Your Son’s Mind Against His Biological Father?
Some women knowingly and intentionally perform this evil scheme. Others do it unintentionally. While boys are young, this vengeful act seems harmless, but as they grow older, they develop bitterness against their fathers.
Some women knowingly and intentionally perform this evil scheme. Others do it unintentionally. While boys are young, this vengeful act seems harmless, but as they grow older, they develop bitterness against their fathers.
Note: Women can do this to their children, even if their Father didn’t abandon them and still remains married and an able and competent provider in the home. This is what happens when you have a mother who doesn’t respect her husband – most likely because he’s an emasculated “herb” or “beta nice guy.”
2. Do You Instill In Your Son: “The All Men Are Dogs,” Mentality?
You may hate the father of your child. You may hate all men. You may feel justified in your malice because of how men have treated you. However, all men are not dogs! Good men do exist! A portion of the men who become dogs were trained to be that way by their disgruntled mothers. These boys listen to their moms speak hypercritically, denounce and condemn all men until they develop a disparaging complex about being a male.
You may hate the father of your child. You may hate all men. You may feel justified in your malice because of how men have treated you. However, all men are not dogs! Good men do exist! A portion of the men who become dogs were trained to be that way by their disgruntled mothers. These boys listen to their moms speak hypercritically, denounce and condemn all men until they develop a disparaging complex about being a male.
Once those seeds are planted in their
impressionable minds and hearts, these boys lose hope about being an
honorable man. Their mother’s words become a prophetic utterance. Albeit
a negative one. Single moms, you must find ways to encourage your son
and put a stop to words and actions that dismantle his vision of being a
decent man. All men are not dogs!
Amen! Unfortunately the next point comes right out of the So-Con playbook:
3. Do You Play The Dating Game?
As a single mother, you cannot afford to play the worldly dating game of love, sex and relationships. When you become a revolving door for hordes of males, you indoctrinate your son to systematically devalue and disrespect the female gender. By watching an assortment of males freely enter into and abruptly exit out of your life, your son learns firsthand how to become a playa player, pimp, baller and shot caller.
As a single mother, you cannot afford to play the worldly dating game of love, sex and relationships. When you become a revolving door for hordes of males, you indoctrinate your son to systematically devalue and disrespect the female gender. By watching an assortment of males freely enter into and abruptly exit out of your life, your son learns firsthand how to become a playa player, pimp, baller and shot caller.
On the other hand, you’re simply giving your son a first hand view of what it means to be a slut.
As he witnesses your failed
relationships, tears of regret from your manifold sexual liaisons and
learns how you were dumped, played, dismissed and disgraced at the hands
of detestable males, his conscience becomes desensitized to the well
being of all women. As you play the dating game, you persuade your son
that males were called to be pimps.
There’s probably a lot of truth to this.
As a single mother, if a man refuses
to respect you as a woman and honor the fact that you have a child, he
is not worthy of your companionship.
Whoa there Pastor! The fact that she already made the mistake of getting impregnated by an irresponsible thug already severely limits HER WORTHINESS of the companionship of a worthy man!
You need to know that a man should not
date you if he is not prepared emotionally, psychological, physically
and financially to take on the responsibility of raising your child.
This is true…but you need to add that a woman who actually does find a “good” man “worthy” of her companionship, she should also seek to avoid deceiving him into thinking being a single mother is easy, and that she should imply or deliberately deceive a man with the idea that she will put him first in any future relationship…than not do so once the sucker (oops, I meant “Man”) was actually foolish enough to commit to you.
It is an absolute waste of your time for you to date or court a man who:
* Doesn’t want children
* Doesn’t like children
* Is averse to raising another man’s child
* Is not interested in getting married
* Has it made clear that his objective is to dishonor you sexually
Sigh.
More So-Con pedestalization here. I agree with the rest of this list, but let’s be frank about this last one: Women have the choice, the control, and the responsibility of dishonoring their own sexuality! A man who makes it quite clear that he is not interested in a long term, committed relationship is NOT dishonoring her! He’s being honest! If she has sex with him anyways, in the hopes of “changing his mind,” SHE IS DISHONORING HERSELF AND HER SON.
As a single mother of a boy, you are
largely responsible for how your son will treat the next generation of
women. Take that charge serious. Don’t set your son up for sure
relationship, marital and manhood meltdown. Set before him an example of
honor, respect and virtue.
As important as it is for a single mother to avoid engaging in the cock carousel of thugs and bad boys in plain view of her son, she should also be aware of choosing a man who is NOT a pedestalizing, feminized mangina that she can manipulate and run roughshod all over either. That kind of role model will have it’s own set of issues and pathologies that will affect him when he is older…and in some cases, this can cause just as much psychological damage as having a string of abusive bad boys for his primary male role models.
4. Do You Engage In The Sleepover Trap?
Time and time again, I meet single mothers who allow men to spend the night, move-in or do long-term layovers. When boys see their moms engaging in such shameful activity, they become indoctrinated to see women as sex objects, booty calls and casual sex partners.
Time and time again, I meet single mothers who allow men to spend the night, move-in or do long-term layovers. When boys see their moms engaging in such shameful activity, they become indoctrinated to see women as sex objects, booty calls and casual sex partners.
Don’t worry…even if you don’t do this, he’ll get plenty of that indoctrination from watching TV and going to school with all the other little boys whose mothers do it.
5. Have You Made Your Son The Man of The House?
As cute as it may seem, your son IS NOT the man of the house. He is your child! Most single mothers will never understand the psychological damage they cause by anointing their sons to be the man of the house. By falsely convincing their boys that they are men, these single moms pigeonhole their adolescents into a pressure-based environment God never intended for them to be in.
As cute as it may seem, your son IS NOT the man of the house. He is your child! Most single mothers will never understand the psychological damage they cause by anointing their sons to be the man of the house. By falsely convincing their boys that they are men, these single moms pigeonhole their adolescents into a pressure-based environment God never intended for them to be in.
Many of these undeveloped boys feel
such emotional duress, that they resort to doing the unthinkable to meet
their mom’s fanatical demands of manhood. These teenage boys freely
talk about selling drugs, robbing people, car jacking and committing
other crimes to take care of their household.
Amen.
6. Are You Feminizing Your Son?
To feminize means to cause a male to assume feminine characteristics. The way single mothers feminize their sons is by doing things such as:
To feminize means to cause a male to assume feminine characteristics. The way single mothers feminize their sons is by doing things such as:
* Having him with them while they go shopping for women’s clothing
* Taking him to the beauty salons while they get their hair and nails done
* Having him in the bathroom and bedroom while they primp and pamper
* Buying him feminine toys such as girl’s bikes, dolls, etc.
* Providing him with feminine clothes, makeup or accessories
* Involving him in feminine activities
* Calling him cute, primping and pampering him
* Piercing his ears and giving him earrings
* Belittling or minimizing male-female gender differences
* Bringing feminine or homosexual males into his life or presence
Single mothers who allow or inspire
their sons to engage in activities that cause him to be feminized are
partly responsible for the mass number of passive and effeminate males
in our society.
Don’t forget to add that young boys raised by a single mother also pattern their emotional responses to their mothers. This is why many young men from single mother households become violent and abusive criminals. They never learn to control and channel their aggression properly by a good masculine role model. Instead, the only role model they have is the emotional roller coaster of their mother’s hormonal mood swings. When his body changes, you will have a young man full of testosterone and aggression, but no self control of his emotions.
7. Are You Training Him To Be a Man?
Get this irrefutable truth engrained into your mind and heart as expediently as possible. A woman cannot train a boy to be a man any more than a man can train a girl to become a virtuous woman. A man has his limits when it comes to raising and training girls.
Get this irrefutable truth engrained into your mind and heart as expediently as possible. A woman cannot train a boy to be a man any more than a man can train a girl to become a virtuous woman. A man has his limits when it comes to raising and training girls.
While I’m sure there are plenty of problems men have when it comes to raising girls, I don’t think “virtuous” is one of them. A strong, protective Father most certainly can train a girl to be virtuous. I think the Pastor would have been better served to state any more than a man can train a girl to become a feminine woman.
He can read a thousand books and
attend countless lectures, but he will never be able to fully understand
or explain to a girl what PMS is, a woman’s hormones or what to expect
when she gets pregnant. Most men won’t even attempt to broach subjects
such as a woman’s broad range of emotions and feelings, her weight or
looks, tampons or why women break out and cry at certain events and
situations. It takes a woman to talk to a girl about those critical
facets of her life.
Agreed. THIS is what Men cannot adequately do in raising girls…but none of that has to do with virtue.
In the same token, as a woman, there
is only so much that you can instill in or teach a boy. Accept that fact
and do not try to cross your boundaries. There are certain things that
boys need psychologically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally, that
you as a woman will never be able to impart to them. You will never
understand or be able to help your son understand:
* Masculinity
* Testosterone
* The male ego
* A man’s penis
* Why men are territorial
* Why men love a good battle
* A man’s need to conquer
* A boy’s rites of passage
Like most females, you will spend an
eternity scratching your head trying to understand why men gravitate
towards brute competition. Since you will never comprehend these
masculine things, you will never be able to properly communicate them to
any male. Including your son!
SO STOP TRYING!
Leave the manhood training to the men!
Hallelujah!
8. Are You Emasculating Your Son?
Some single mothers ruin their sons by emasculating them. To emasculate means: 1. To castrate. 2. To deprive of strength or vigor and to weaken. These single moms accomplish this catastrophic emasculation process by:
Some single mothers ruin their sons by emasculating them. To emasculate means: 1. To castrate. 2. To deprive of strength or vigor and to weaken. These single moms accomplish this catastrophic emasculation process by:
Excellent advice. Once again, Amen, Pastor.* Impeding the boy’s natural gravitation towards things that boys love to do, (i.e. rough sports and aggressive play)
* By constantly scolding, condemning, yelling and screaming at him. This commonly used tactic erodes a boy’s self-confidence
* By being a domineering or overbearing mother. These single moms not only bruise their son’s male ego, but they mutilate his male identity and condition him to be a cowardly passive male
* Constantly seeing his mother crying or throwing temper tantrums. When a boy sees these seemingly harmless emotional outbursts, he becomes conditioned to respond to the issues and pressures of life in the same manner as his mom.
I also cannot find any fault with his last two points as well…
…well, almost anything:
9. Have You Made Your Son Into a Momma’s Boy?
I constantly meet single mothers who delight in the fact that they are raising momma’s boys. Let me put things into proper perspective by first defining what a momma’s boy is. He has been raised and taken care of by his mother. She has dressed him, cooked his meals, did his laundry, put a roof over his head, babied and spoiled him since birth and still does so… although he is a grown man.
I constantly meet single mothers who delight in the fact that they are raising momma’s boys. Let me put things into proper perspective by first defining what a momma’s boy is. He has been raised and taken care of by his mother. She has dressed him, cooked his meals, did his laundry, put a roof over his head, babied and spoiled him since birth and still does so… although he is a grown man.
She has come to his rescue, fought his
battles, spoken up for him, lied for him, blamed others for his sins
and protected him from harm and still does so… although he is a grown
man. She has bought his shoes and socks, paid his bills, bought his
groceries and got him out of jail and other jams and still does so…
although he is a grown man.
In their strange and contorted
mother-son relationship, neither of one them is willing cut their now
grotesque umbilical cord. By the way their mothers have raised them,
these males have been indoctrinated to believe that women exist for the
sole purpose of serving and taking care of men.
They have no problem
with moving in with a female and sitting at home, watching television
while their wives, girlfriends and baby’s mothers work two and three
jobs to pay the bills.
Their understanding is, “What’s the
problem? That’s what my mom did and that’s what women are supposed to
do!” When it comes to marriage and relationships, I advise all women to
avoid momma’s boys. One way or another, these males are going to cause
you heartache. Especially if you attempt to snip their umbilical cord.
Single mothers who truly care about their son’s future will not raise
their sons to be momma’s boys!
10. Do You Avoid Finding Strong Male Role Models For Your Son?
By having no strong male role models in their lives, boys are prone to gravitate towards:
By having no strong male role models in their lives, boys are prone to gravitate towards:
This is our Brave New World molded and fashioned by a feminist movement and a sexually libertine culture promoting Matriarchal values and unleashed female sexuality. Teaching a boy to “respect the female gender” is another way of teaching him to pedestalize women, as a gender. Teach him to respect only those men and women that have earned it! No woman deserves respect simply because she has female plumbing.* Having a distorted sense of self-worth
* Feeling irrelevant in our society
* Rebelling against authority
* Being passive males
* Having a deep sense of vulnerability
* Wondering about their legacy
* Not respecting the female gender
Heh. If he understands marriage…more specifically Marriage 2.0, he certainly should NOT embrace marriage…* Not understanding, respecting or embracing manhood
* Not understanding, respecting or embracing marriage
* Not understanding, respecting or embracing fatherhood
As they reach adulthood, these harmful traits make men become societal undesirables. As a single mom, you must make seeking out strong godly male role models for your son a top priority. Start with your child’s father. The only reasons you should keep your son away from his biological father is because his dad:
* Is an alcoholic, drug user or drug dealer
* Is wanted by the police or other authorities
* Has harmful mental or other psychological issues
* Is a thug or is involved in other criminal activity
* Is an abuser, molester or perpetrator of domestic violence
* Has threatened physical harm or violence
* Poses a safety threat to you or child in some other fashion
Barring none of the above, you should
not prevent your child’s from interacting with his dad. After the
child’s biological father, look at the men in your family, church, after
school programs and organizations that are passionate about raising
boys. Be clear on this irrefutable fact: your son needs honorable men in
his life if he is going to properly transition from boyhood to manhood.
If he has no godly strong male role
models, your son will go from boyhood to adulthood, while skipping
manhood. Don’t deceive yourself into believing that you can raise your
son without men, you cannot.
Overall, I really don’t have too much quibble with this article. It would probably be better for society if more boys in single mother homes were raised to be pedestalizing doormats for women when they get older than violent, anti-social and emotionally out control adults…but still, the better answer would be to prevent the promulgation of the ubiquity of single mother households in the first place.
As long as we have a welfare and family court system defining any “family” as a mother and children, and subsidizing and/or forcefully removing men from their families and their roles as Patriarchs, the “cycle of poverty” will continue to escalate and hasten the decline of our declining civilization.
Notable Commentary from the Original Post
Migu March 17, 2010 at 10:24
The pastor forgot one thing. Modern marriage castrates the husband legally. If the wife puts her foot down, the man faces enslavement or imprisonment. Not a good role model. Even an honorable man is three numbers away from a felony rapsheet if he is married.
A virtuous women can make the mistake of dialing those numbers once, and even if she admits it was a power play and mistake, the state’s social army will remand her to psychiatric care in order to nullify all dissent for the coming destruction of the man she used those numbers against in a moment of weakness. Those numbers are 911.
krauser March 17, 2010 at 11:50
Yeah good stuff. I think the answer is not “cultural” in the sense of jawboning, moralising and so on. The answer is economic – cut these bitches off from all social safety nets and alimony. Let them starve in the streets if necessary.
The moment the glass floor is removed, women shape up very very quickly.
mgtow March 17, 2010 at 14:22
True, single mothers harm their sons.
But I’ll be damned if money were siphoned from me to rectify the situation.
Let them turn feral and devour one another. See if I care.
‘Single’ mothers do not happen by chance, they are the consequence of poor choices made in life: spreading legs indicriminately, not using birth control, not aborting or giving kid up for adoption when you are penniless etc etc. Therefore, you have better luck squeezing blood from a piece of rock than to strain an ounce of sympathy from me.
GlobalMan March 17, 2010 at 15:44
@ Migu March 17, 2010 at 10:24
Migu is correct. The damage done to my children seeing their father dragged out of his house for addressing the lies he was being told by their mother was quite severe, in my opinion. It demonstrated to the children that the man of the house could be arrested based on lies by the woman of the house.
My eldest son said to me ‘Afte seeing how you and my father were treated by my mother I will never get married because I might get a woman like my mother’.
Well done mamma!!! You taught your boy that you are such a bitch that to be saddled with the likes of you would be a disaster. Women willing to emasculate and abuse their husbands tell the boys all they need to know. Stay away from cunts like this.
Rebel March 17, 2010 at 15:56
I think the biggest single cause of fatherlessness is the government’s criminalization of fatherhood.
I don’t believe there’s any coming back.
It’s over and done.
J@bberw0cky March 17, 2010 at 16:06
In my case, my mom divorced my high achieving Beta dad for a low achieving Alpha cad, but then turned around and raised me to be Beta?
What the fuck and why?
I think I know the reason, and that is because women are hypocritcally-irrational. Whatever reasoning suites the moment, no matter how flawed, is the reasoning they will use. They can’t even be consistently irrational. Nature played a horrible trick on them by connecting their logical-cognitive processes directly to the emotional core of their brain, thereby throwing a monkey wrench into both processes. They are emotional for no logical reason, and incapable of logic for emotional reasons. Evolution designed them this way for a reason. Nature made them irrationally selfish, as they are indivdually, biologically more important than individual men, yet often physically and mentally inferior, especially to outlier men. Evolution countered this real world imbalance by giving women a couple aces up their sleeves: sexual power and selfishness. Men on the other hand are irrationally confident, despite being biologically less important, even when not outliers, because nature needs men to take risks and battle it out on the hierarchy for the benefit of the tribe/species at the consequence of the individual. Even highly successful men work themselves into an early grave.
The old “I don’t need to go see a doctor.” complex.
Fighting feminism is basically fighting nature.
But so is building a house to protect you from the weather, or planting crops so you don’t have to hunt in the dangerous wild, or inventing governments and laws to create order.
As Kurt Cobain said, “Nature is a whore.” She’s also a selfish bitch.
The only time women aren’t completey selfish is when they are biochemically/psychologically addicted to their children through the gestation and birthing process, and even this trick of nature doesn’t seem to hold back their selfish ways consistently or for very long.
Keep in mind, cartoons are cute because cartoon characters look like babies, which means things that look like babies are considered cute by human minds. We evolved this way to keep us from killing our crying babies or eating them when we are hungry. Both males and females are designed to process “cuteness”. Young women look more like babies than men. More unfair advantages given to them by nature. I’m sure you all have read how I have a baby face. No cheek bones and not jaw line. I look very non-threatening. I believe this helped me get away with all sorts of trouble in school. I was a complete smart ass, but because I was cute and harmless looking, teachers let it slide. Women also found my cuteness very non-alpha, despite being a notorious fighter. I didn’t look the part. This is why I know women are just as shallow as men when it comes to looks, even though if we have enough other stuff to offer they will ignore looks. The reason men primarily rely on looks more than women is because women rarely have anything else to offer us, or are willing to give us. I would have married a rich 5 who would have taken care of me financially while I pursued art. I was never offered. A rich 5 still wants an Alpha or at least another rich man. NO chick will support a creative Beta no matter what his potential is. He has to be established. Potential doesn’t count to women who have money or looks, only to women trying to make the best play with their limited leverage.
This turned into a rant. Off to lunch.
