Avoiding the Fate of the AMC

From the SpearheadFiles
February 14, 2010

In the terminology of the Venusian arts aka "Game," the acronym AFC, stands for Average Frustrated Chump. This article deals with an even sadder specimen of the male species – the Average Married Chump.



Disclaimer: This article is intended for those of us suckers, fools, naive idiots and morons that either got married before we knew better (such as myself), or are dumb enough to sign on the dotted line for Marriage 2.0. despite knowing better. Yes, we get it, all you MGTOW-ers and PUA-ers – getting into Marriage 2.0 with a Western Woman is dumb, crazy and foolhardy. Better to go your own way and avoid women altogether…or just game the young sluts or crazy cougars for commitment free, protected sex. Believe me…we get it.

Nevertheless, there are men that have or intend to get married. This column is intended for those of us that are crazy and foolhardy enough to think we can actually marry a Western woman and and have children to create a family – and not be emasculated, pussy-whipped, cheated on, cuckolded, divorced and ass-raped with vagina-mony and child support judgments in our Soviet-styled family court system. In fact this article is actually about how a married man under today’s marriage 2.0 regime can actually do his own part to avoid all of the pitfalls and dangers of today’s divorce – child support racket.

I write this disclaimer, simply because I’ve observed numerous discussions of marriage in the “man-o-sphere” invariably always have a chorus of MGTOW-ers and PUA-ers that always have to weigh in with their “you married guys are idiots” or ” it’s best to avoid marriage all together.”

Thanks guys…we already know. We still have to deal with our own realities, and telling us over and over again how stupid or foolish we are may make yourself feel better about yourself and the path you chose to follow…but it doesn’t actually help those of us that are already married or who intend to get married and have children in the future.



Most of us already know what Marriage 2.0 means. Most Spearhead readers know about the history of the feminist movement and it’s deliberate and destructive unleashing of the demons of unrestrained female sexuality upon society. They actively subverted and corrupted Marriage 1.0 – the institution of Patriarchy – to deliberately destroy the foundation for civilized society, so as to build a Brave New World Order based on the illusion of “gender equality.” That, of course, was merely the mechanism to inculcate a sense of victim-hood into women so that they would rebel against the gender roles that were clearly defined under Marriage 1.0, and forgo getting married at a young age when they are most fertile, so that the likelihood of having multiple children in stable  homes with a Father as the primary authority figure in that home, would become a near obsolete anachronism. The proof is in the pudding – the Demographic decline of the West is a fact, and proves that the real goal of feminism was and is all about population control.

By taking up the mantle of Patriarch, and having a successful marriage with multiple children -- while increasingly dangerous to men and their children under the current feminist regime -- is in fact a blow to those that seek to prevent the formation of stable, male-headed nuclear families in the first place.

So what can you, as a man, do, to become that Patriarch whose wife and children love and respect?

While it is a complex issue – and there are so many variables at play, it is impossible to ensure ONE CORRECT way to make a marriage in today’s feminazi-fucked world work, there are a number of things you can do to at least lessen the odds as much as possible.

To start with, there are a few things that all men who are contemplating marriage need to consider:

The Principle Feature of Female Sexuality is Hypergamy

Unless you understand this principle fully and completely, you will have trouble in your marriage.

To put it succinctly – the key to surviving — and indeed, even thriving — in marriage 2.0, is to behave and conduct yourself as if you were in marriage 1.0…the old school definition. You must "wear the pants." You must be the literal and figurative Head of your household. If you cannot do this, than marriage in today's Brave New World Order is not for you. You should indeed go your own way or confine yourself to gaming women for short term relationships with no commitment implied or given.

Remember: NO woman respects a man she can rule. Any man she can rule, is a man she will have contempt for. Any man she has contempt for, she simply cannot lust. And if she doesn’t lust you, she certainly will not “love” you.

To put it even simpler than that, you need to understand the key to a successful marriage is establishing and maintaining a relationship based on the reality of her hypergamous instincts. The first thing you must do to ensure success, is of course to choose the “right” woman.

So what are the qualities of the “right” woman? After all, we men of The Spearhead, hold a special scorn for women that continually make the empty claim “Not all women are like that!”

In terms of morality, attitudes and behavior, indeed, not all women are “like that.” There are women who have been raised in an environment that makes it far more likely she will have the self-control, maturity and awareness to accept your leadership role to make sure you have a successful marriage.

In short…here are the characteristics that make a successful marriage with a Western Woman more likely -

* Was she was raised in an intact, happy nuclear family?

This is perhaps THE most important prerequisite you should have in assessing whether or not the great risks involved with marriage in today’s society are worth taking on with any particular woman. In many ways, we human beings develop the same attitudes, behaviors, habits and ethics of the people who raise us. From childhood, we are given a template of life that we both consciously and subconsciously follow. Women from a broken home were raised within that template. When a woman comes from a broken home and raised by a single mother, she will internalize the same attitudes and behaviors of her mother, the same attitudes that broke her own mother’s home up greatly increases the chances that she will break up your own home that you try to make with her as well. This is especially true if she comes from a broken home for which the mother places all of the blame for the breakup of the marriage on the ex-husband/father.

* Does she have a positive, respectful relationship with her Father?

Take careful note of any prospective wife’s relationship with her father (the guy she considers as the primary male that raised her..not necessarily her bio-dad). Does she respect him? Is he an authority figure to her that she admires, and will listen and follow his advice? If she doesn’t respect the male authority of the home she was raised in, she’s not going to respect your attempts at exercising male authority in your home either.

* Is she is younger than you?

This one factor really gives a man a “head-start” in establishing a relationship of proper balance – one in which the man and the woman fulfill their complementary gender roles. It also increases the likelihood that she is either a virgin or relatively inexperienced. By virtue of your older age, you will hopefully have accomplishments, achievements and experience that she will admire and respect. She will be “looking up to you” from the very beginning. That’s a much easier place to maintain your “up” status if your relationship is founded on that to begin with. Besides, if your goal is to have multiple children, it doesn’t make sense to marry an older woman. How many kids did Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore have again?

* Does she have a sense of moral awareness and justice?

Observe her attitudes and beliefs when she is presented with scenarios, dramatized performances or real life examples of the issues that are directly related to marital success. What is her opinion of a friend that she knows is cheating? Does she condone, excuse or justifies her friends or family members doing things like cuckolding, cheating, or divorcing? What are her opinions of movie stars, rock or pop stars and other celebrities that engage in all sorts of marriage destroying behaviors? Does she hold men and women equally accountable? Does she think it was perfectly alright for Tiger Woods wife to hit him with a golf club? Take stock of all the examples that show her attitude when they present themselves. All of the attitudes she expresses that adhere to what feminist society would consider ‘politically correct’ are bright, red flags.

Ignore them at your own risk.

* What are her life goals? Does she understand the realities of her own biological clock and the opportunity costs of pursuing the education/career track versus having children?

Listen to what she says are her primary goals in life. Is she following the feminist script of education-career- then maybe a kid or two onto the road of fulfillment and "having it all" as a supermom? Or is she perfectly content to stay home and raise children? Will she support you in your own career goals? Will she complement your own life’s mission goals…or is she determined to set her own goals (which inevitably end up competing with yours, not complementing them.)

* How does she manage money and credit?

Is she a compulsive shopper? Does she consider shopping to be a primary form of entertainment? Most importantly…does she have credit card debt? If she finances her compulsive clothes shopping with credit cards that she never pays off in full, she will be dragging you into debt slavery right along with her after the wedding. Oftentimes, the “experts” will cite “money troubles” as the leading factor in a marriage breaking up. In politically incorrect terms, this usually means she spends more than they can pay off, and she resents him for failing to “provide.”



Now, let’s just say you think you’ve found “the one” who fits the bill. A woman that is least likely to give you the gift of a broken home, child support/vagina-mony mandated slavery and alienated children. You go ahead and get married.

While the previous list of characteristics are definitely founded on the principle that “not all women are like that,” after all, not all women are raging sluts living the feminist dictated lifestyle, it is after marriage, when you settle down into a routine of daily living with each other, that in fact you will find out that ALL women ARE indeed just like that.

Lose her respect, let her take the role of authority in the house, and you’ll see how ALL women are driven by their hypergamous instincts. While she may be in fact a woman who steadfastly doesn’t believe in divorce…who takes her vows seriously (probably because of a religious belief), perhaps she won’t divorce you — but eventually you’ll wish she did. Her contempt for you and your emasculated state will absolutely pollute your home environment. Her disrespect for you will infect your children, poison the atmosphere and you will end up with what is commonly known as a “dysfunctional” family.

How do you avoid this? Here’s a list of bullet points to consider:

- Strive to lead your home on solid moral principles, especially focused on honesty.

- Study “Game” or learn the art of seducing women. Than seduce your wife…over and over again.

- Don’t become predictable.

- Constantly DHV (Demonstrate Higher Value). Always remind her at every opportunity that presents itself as to how lucky she is to be married to YOU.

- “Neg” her regularly with light-hearted, playful teasing.

- Learn to recognize her shit tests.

- Understand that ULTIMATUMS are the ultimate shit test. Never, ever, EVER give in to an ultimatum.

- Call her on her bullshit…the biggest of which is using sex as a bargaining chip. The second you give into her attempts to make sex a bargaining tool, you’ve placed your sex life into the category of competitive rather then complementary. It’s a power play you WILL lose.

- Be decisive and confident. Ask her for her opinions…but NOT her approval. This also ties in with not being predictable. Plan things for her and your family to do…but don’t tell her about it. Just tell her “we got plans, get ready.” Give her as little details as possible — only enough to ensure she wears the appropriate apparel. Tease her whenever she asks about your plans…in this way, you build up her sense of anticipation and mystery. If you learn to do this right, you can actually make her excited about doing things that would otherwise be repetitive and mundane.

- Never let her dictate big purchasing decisions. You can take her opinion into account…but remember that you should have final say. No bargaining either. “We’ll get the minivan now, you can buy your sports car later.”

- Maintain friends and interests of your own…especially those considered “masculine.” Hunting, fishing…whatever. Something for which you can go and do without her. Never give up your hobby or recreation ESPECIALLY if she tries to get you to stop. Hunters, hunt. Fisherman, fish. Surfers, surf. Skiers, ski. Ballplayers, play ball. She knows what kind of guy she’s marrying and the hobbies he enjoys. Her trying to get you to quit your hobby or activity is really just a shit test to see how much of a spine you have.

- Never EVER let her “OWN THE HOUSE.” Don’t let her designate one area as your “man cave” and the rest of the house is her domain to decorate and furnish as she desires. Let her have some rooms…like bathrooms and kitchens (especially since your not going to marry a woman that isn’t spending significant time in the kitchen in the first place…). Make sure the common rooms have evidence that a MAN lives there too. This, of course, does not mean you shouldn’t have your own “man cave.” Just make sure it is not the ONLY room in the house that looks like a man dwells there.

- Do NOT be afraid of her emotional state. She is a woman, and emotional instability is simply how she is designed. As Roissy stated so eloquently in his The 16 Commandments of Poon:

"You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her."

If all this seems like a little too much to remember, there is a simple shortcut you can use to keep yourself in check. When talking with her, or contemplating talking to her, you can maintain the correct relationship dynamic by asking yourself a very simple question in your mind: “Am I talking to her as if she were my lover…or as if she were my mother, and I her child?”


You don’t ASK FOR PERMISSION to do anything. That’s what a kid does, begging mommy for permission.

She’s not your mommy…never forget that. Because as soon as you fall into that role, you will become that AMC. That pathetic version of a walking zombie, trapped and miserable in a sexless marriage to a woman that doesn’t respect you, and is not motivated to stay in shape and attractive for you.

We all know that marriage in this day and age is mostly a bad deal for men…nevertheless, if you do decide to take the plunge, remember that you do have some control in how it turns out.



Notable Commentary from the Original Post


Wulf February 14, 2010 at 14:26:

Excellent article and advice.

I did it, but not with an American girl.

25 years ago I realized my choices here in the U.S. were dubious at best, so I chose to marry a Chinese girl from overseas. In-laws 15,000 miles away is an assetand a Chinese father-n-law will tell his daughter to “fly-right” if he senses anything negative over the phone.

We’ve had a girl and a boy together. They are out of High School and the daughter is on her own. Parenting in today’s culture of death is quite difficult.


Elusive Wapiti February 14, 2010 at 16:39:

Amen Amen Amen.

In my first marriage I married a peer with well-hidden justice issues and with parents who disliked me.

She also had a thick umbilicus to Mommy–I recommend that fellow readers add this to your list. A difficulty in cleaving from one’s parents will be a barrier to cleaving to you.

All of these led to marriage destruction and my enslavement.

I remarried a woman 7 years my junior whose parents like me and who don’t sow seeds of discord. The difference is amazing. While I don’t do all the things you recommend, I do quite a bit. Bottom line is that I’m much happier.

PS happy v-day to everyone.


Welmer February 14, 2010 at 16:47:

"Elusive Wapiti wrote:She also had a thick umbilicus to Mommy–I recommend that fellow readers add this to your list. A difficulty in cleaving from one’s parents will be a barrier to cleaving to you."

Yes, in-laws can wreck a marriage. I think baby boomer mother in laws are awful. I’m worried that if I meet another woman I’ll be very distrustful of her parents, if not outright hostile toward them. I was always a polite, accommodating son in law, and for that I got a knife in my back and my children hijacked by my MIL.

Holier Than Thou

In the past, I've made a multitude of references to my youth, growing up in a standard American institution of Churchianity, the First Church of Her Holy Imperative. It is one of the reasons why I left, and have not attended any organized denomination since, despite having come to the conclusion that I in fact do believe in God, and do believe that Jesus Christ is the Messiah and his message is Truth.

 

Gospel Truth

But disgust at the idolatry of the Feminine Imperative was not the main reason I stopped church attendance. Hell, at the age I last went, I did not even think about such things at all. White Knightery and self-revulsion for being male where just a part of the culture of my religious community. I was like a fish not realizing there is more to the world than the waters of misandry and idolatrous vagina-worship that I was swimming in my entire life.

I just accepted it as ironclad doctrine that the wages of testosterone are sin.

No, my greatest distaste for organized churchianity was the holier than thou mindset and the delusions of the faithful congregants wielding scriptural verses and saintly doctrine in the struggle for gaining the World Championship of Spiritual and Moral Superiority!

THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE!

I have a great distaste for the scripture wielding, bible-verse quoting preening and one-upmanship that is all too common in our Brave New World Order's Christian culture....and quite frankly, while I owe a lot to the evolution of my thinking and re-discovered faith in the teachings of Jesus to the "Christian" red pill sector of these fringes of teh Interwebz, I am troubled by that ages old problem that was one of the primary factors in why I left church and forsook the faith in the first place, for I see it rearing it's ugly head pretty frequently in the comment sections of the believers and faithful red pill converts.

The furious recitation of biblical verses, the arguments for how YOU are doing it wrong, this is how or what YOU should be doing to avoid Hellfire, damnation and all that cool stuff. As a young teen, I often rolled my eyes and turned away from the typical congregationist getting up on their high horse of morality and attempting to rebuke others for their failure to live up to standards they themselves claimed to be upholding.

In the name of the Lord, many a fool has convinced him or herself that they are preaching the doctrine of HE IS GREATER THAN I, but are really just puffing themselves up in pride and conveying a much different message to any one unfortunate enough to be the target of their sanctimony.

The Typical Manifestation of Your Evangelical Zeal

In my adolescent mind, I came to the erroneous conclusion that well, I was already fallen as a sinful, lust-filled male, so why not check out the left hand path since I was going to hell anyways? Many years of debauchery and "self-discovery" followed. I suspect many a folk have encountered the same sort of Christian and turned away from the message.

Unlike the standard declaration of the modern hedonist, "I regret NOTHING!" I now know and accept that there is much I regret during that time in my life, and would take many of my actions back if I could. But this realization and regrets over past misdeeds have also prepared the way for my eventual acceptance of the message of Jesus when I re-read the Testament of his life and ministry, and sought to try and understand his core message and how it relates to living a good life.  

So look...I realize that while I'm denouncing the behavior in this post that I find off-putting and detrimental to the preaching of the Truth of His Gospel, I shall also have to confess that I too am guilty of the very thing I seek to rebuke here. But it can't be helped, somebody has to say it. Oh wait, he already did:

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."

Some dude also once said something along the lines of "You shall know them by their fruits." Well, it would be best if we all focused on growing the best fruit we can grow, and not worry about telling others how they should be growing theirs or how they are doing it all wrong. While you are busy minding other people's gardens, your own is being neglected.




Now if their is one thing I find more off putting than Christians moralizing at each other in self-righteousness, I find evangelical atheism and straw-man crucifixion of Christianity even more intolerable and suffused with insufferable pride and arrogance. rmaxactivepua, took exception to my last two posts regarding my thoughts on marriage, and left some comments that I responded in part to, but I decided to save the majority of my responses for a fisking in this here blog posting.

rmax wrote:

"Just another post by a mind addled by christianity ..."

On the contrary, I've never seen things with as much moral clarity as before. It may seem addled to you, but I would say your mind is addled by our Brave New World Order's cultural standard of inversions.

"The concepts of christianity are dead & deserve to stay dead, precisely because theyre a creation of Rome & jews, specifically designed to create an ancient form of communism."

The concepts of Christianity have survived millenia, and continue to thrive, despite persecutions, genocides and holocausts by those who hate Christ and seek to stamp out his Gospel, for the power and glory they seek are the very wages of sins He rebuked and warned us all to avoid.

"Monogamous marriage is a prime example of the folly of christians."

The problems with monogamous marriage is the deliberate secular and atheist subversion and decimation of the institution so as to socially engineer society so that THEY can pursue their ultimate goal of power and control over we the sheeple. Monogamous marriage is the program for building orderly, civilized society. The true folly lies in the present day chaos of broken homes, single mother households and dysfunctions of the youth that come from the normalization of this war on monogamy.

"Monogamous marriage is incompatible with both men & womens biology & methods of reproduction

Monogamous marriage is the ONLY thing compatible with civilization. Men and women's biology is instinctual and animalistic. We all know that Men want to fuck every pretty young thing that comes into our view, and Women want to fuck the highest status man she can attract. It's how we are wired.

What you fail to understand is that when the animalistic nature of the human sex drive is unleashed and not restrained by any morals or societal standards, you get the societal chaos and dysfunction that we have today. Only through monogamous marriage, where men and women strive to contain, control and hold their animalistic tendencies at bay to build a stable home to raise the next generation, can true civilization that lasts is even be possible.

"All it does is create a horde of pussified, mangina's optimised for slave labour"

I suppose you fail to miss the current horde of pussified mangina's enslaved to the banksters in today's Brave New World Order, when monogamy in the USA Inc., is at an all time low, and divorce and broken homes are at an all time high?

It is the broken home and the children raised without stable parents committed to each other and to the well being of their households that are more likely to grow up enslaved to consumerism, materialism and meaningless, self-destructive hedonism, then the children raised in stable, God-fearing homes.

Look rmax, one of the tenets of Christianity, is that all of mankind are fallen sinners. None of us are perfect. To denounce Chrisitianity because some men have subverted or co-opted the institution of the Church for their own worldly goals or wicked desires is to miss the point of what Jesus taught completely.

Sure there have been Catholic priests that have diddled altar boys, Televangelists who preach false wealth doctrine to amass riches, and feminist Pastorix who minister to millions of hamsters to use sex as a weapon and blow up their families over their husbands looking at teh pr0n. In any and ever case of "Christian" corruption that you can use to denounce Christianity, you are denouncing the sins of the sinners...all of whom are most assuredly NOT following the teachings of The Man Himself.

I guess, rmax, the only thing I can really say to you is this - my last post was an honest testament of my understanding of the Truth of what Jesus taught, and his promise that the Truth will set us free. I have found that freedom, and I only seek to share it with others. It is all I have ever done on this blog. You can disagree with me (as many do), but your assurances that Christianity is a slave religion and responsible for many of the historical evils that have afflicted mankind are just wrong.

When you are done getting your 1,000th notch by hitting and quitting your latest slut, I will be taking my family to the beach and basking in warmth and joy of watching my progeny play in the surf and enjoying the beauty of the world through their innocent, wonder-filled eyes. I've lived a life of hedonistic debauchery in my fallen youth -- and while I was no PUA with double digit notch counts, I have had more than enough meaningless intimacies with ladies to understand the problems that come with a life obsessed with it's pursuit.




Speaking of PUA's, I got one last stream of thoughts regarding this whole 'Holier than thou' theme. I've been asked more than a few times by folks why it is that I would profess to be a believer in Christianity, but still link to, read, and comment on blogs and forums full of wretched PUAs, MGTOWs, sodomites, lechers, fornicators, adulterers, and all sorts of wicked characters.

That is because I am not a "Godly" man.

 I am a God-fearing man, and I recognize how debauched I am. I am a lowly sinner in need of much repentance, atonement and redemption. And many of these folks who others would denounce as not worthy of any time spent reading or commenting at their respective outposts in these fringes of teh Interwebz, are in the exact same boat as I.

Just because I have come to recognize the Truth of His message, does not mean I am any better than any other sinner. We all have to face up to our own sins, and I am not worried about the planks in other's eyes, for we all have our own planks we need to worry about.

What I do recognize, is that many of my fellow fallen sinners, also have their own perspectives, experiences and viewpoints that do contain value for me to read, contemplate and consider. For instance, after leaving a well thought out comment on my Messages for Millenials post, another poster denounced Black Poison Soul for his thoughts, which in turn inspired what turned out to be a pretty good post: Back to Basics: What is Marriage For?:

What is marriage for?

Possible answer: Because we love each other. No. We can love someone without marrying them. Without getting involved with them. Without anything formal being involved at all.

Possible answer: Because we're exclusive. No. We can be exclusive with someone without marrying them. That's just a "lets fuck exclusively" arrangement.

Accepted answer: To protect the family.

Black Poison Soul ended up putting on his Crap Colored Glasses™ and expanded on the thoughts I had put forth on my last post about It's For the Children!.

Yet again: Why was marriage developed?

It was developed to harness the power of Men and to yoke it to the development of civilization for the overall benefit of Men, Women, and Child(ren). When you give somebody skin in the game, then they will work hard at it. To give someone skin in the game, then there must be in their opinion something worthwhile in return.

Read the whole thing.

It's a great post from a fellow fallen sinner. He does not need me to call him to account for his sins, that's not my kuleana. That's between he and God. But I will take what good he has put forth here and say, this fruit that he has produced, why it is good! It stands in direct contrast to the arguments of that other fallen sinner I spent some time responding to earlier.

rmax calls monogamy slavery and unfair to men, that favors Women's sexual strategy at the expense of men's. I say monogamy puts a leash on both Men and Women's sexual strategy, for the express benefit of their offspring.

And until you have your own offspring and you see the benefits of a stable home your monogamous marriage provides them, you will not understand this when I say to you that truly, it is no slavery at all.

It's For the Children!

In my last post, I did anticipate the usual denunciations of the institution of marriage 2.0 by the usual suspects out in these fringes of teh Interwebz, after I posted the following:

"I have written it over and over again in the past on this blog...that I do not recommend marriage to today's youth.

I come now to conditionally recant and retract that sentiment. I see thing's differently with a little bit older and I like to think wiser eyes...

Telling people not to marry and have kids because of how messed up the system is, merely contributes further to the degradation and decline of our society and culture. I now say, take the risk, and go for it."

After years of stating in both blog posts and commentary here and elsewhere, some may be wondering why the change of heart? For that, I must reiterate another statement I made in my last post:

"As a father and family man myself, the joy of having and raising children is unmatched by any other experience I've had in this life."

It's absolutely true. How can I continue to advocate avoiding marriage and family formation to others, while realizing the greatest joy and fulfillment I've experienced in my own life has been raising my own progeny?

Why would I try and steer you away from possibly experiencing the same?

Then again, my experiences with parenthood are different than a lot of other folks. I am not stuck in a daily grind of the nine-to-five rat race as a human resource in a corporate cubicle farm.

I am not dropping the kids off at school and then letting them go to after-school daycare, only to see them for a few hours in the evening before repeating the cycle all over again the next day, dropping them off at my neighborhood institutional indoctrination facility again, while I head off to work, only to spend any meaningful quality time with them on the weekends. I understand the full ramifications of opportunity costs when it comes to raising children in today's Brave New World Order.

I have deliberately scaled back on my material standard of consumption, so as to maximize the amount of quality time I have with my offspring. I don't have a nice car (mechanically sound and runs well though), the best clothes, nor a fancy house. But I've got a little bit of freedom to indulge my time how I best see fit. I wouldn't have it any other way. (Well, I'd be a liar if I didn't admit that it would be nice to hit the lottery or something.) Now I may work a sixty hour work week, but that is usually followed by ten days off or so. Those ten days of freedom to spend with my progeny are priceless. Money cannot buy the meaningful time I've spent with my family.


Anyhow, as more than a few folks have pointed out, one does not need to get married to have children. But I say the children need their parents marriage most. All children do best when raised in a home with a Father and a Mother in a functional marriage, living in a symbiotic existence in which all family members thrive. That is what is best for the children, period.


So if you are going to have them, and you want to experience the joys of parenthood to the fullest extent possible, than you should do what's best for them.

If you're worried about the Judicial - Divorce Industrial Complex...well, child support will be awarded to a custodial parent whether you get married or not. Child support judgements and the decision of what is to be done with the majority of assets are usually decided in the "best interest of the children," well, if you want to have kids, than you may as well go all the way and get married before you procreate.

Besides, I never said YOU (yes YOU specifically!) have to get married and pop out children. If you are one of those who never wants to have children, then I say to you, DON'T GET MARRIED. If not for the sake of having children,  there's no other reason to do it. At least no other sane reason.


Of course, if you do decide to follow through and take part in creating the next generation...you also owe it to your children to carefully vet your potential spouse and not let simple attraction (infatuation and lust) lead you to making the biggest mistake you could ever make in your life. Rest assured, picking a spouse and future parent of your future offspring will be the single most important decision you ever make.

Out in these fringes of teh Interwebz, we have a number of men who are married and are raising children, and they have often offered their views and advice on how to navigate the very dangerous waters of today's Marriage 2.0. Dalrock, Rollo, Athol, Cane, Vox, deti...there plenty of family men who have doled out their perspectives and advice based on their experiences and the clarity of "red pill" thinking and insights on marriage and raising a family in today's Brave New World Order.

It's not as if I'm trying to send you to stumble through a minefield without so much as a map....


If you say it's like hunting unicorns trying to find a worthy spouse...well folks, the best things in life are never easily attained. There's no such thing as a risk free life. All choices you make, involve risks and dangers. The only thing I would say is this: marriage in today's climate is a tremendous personal risk...but not impossible to succeed at. Your best bet would be to approach it with eyes wide open and understand all of the possible risks and pitfalls that can occur. But you see a possible path through the hazards, than if you really want it bad enough, you must venture forth without fear and take the dangerous task head on.

You want to have children? Than you owe it to them to do your best to give them what they need most - a home with a Father and a Mother.

Civilization is built on the foundation of  functional homes and intact families. We are no doubt living through a rapidly declining age...but it is those who create strong communal bonds and family ties who will be much better prepared to live through the coming times than those who have no families.