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Sheeple Watching - Modern Femininity

The first in a series of random observations and fleeting thoughts that flit through my mind lately whenever I walk about in public and observe the average, brainwashed, indoctrinated and oblivious American Sheeple.

Traditional Femininity Stands Out

The vast majority of females in the public sphere generally present themselves in two different categories: masculinized, empowered and uncaring of presenting an attractive image to males, or hyper-sexualized attention whores emulating sluts that advertise their wares for all to see.

The masculinized women I refer to is not necessarily lesbians or hardcore feminists...but rather women who eschew femininity. In this category, there are two subsets: Women in pants, pantsuits, slacks, or female "power suits" with shoulder pads to simulate masculine shoulders. These women are dressed to be "empowered" and ready to compete with men in the world of white collar business. The ironic thing about this fashion trend is that it was mostly inspired by the feminist doctrine that women should dress like men in order for men to "take them seriously" in the world of business. The contention that women must dress like men to be taken seriously by men is indeed the perfect indication that feminists that pushed this idea do not understand what it is about women that men "take seriously."

The other kind of masculinized fashion sense is the jeans,
sweatshirts, sweat pants and T-shirt types with tennis shoes or flip flops on their feet. They deliberately dress to downplay their feminine appearance. This one, I think, appears to be much more prevalent amongst the majority of the female herd members of 21st Century American Sheeple. I find this current cultural zeitgeist to be particularly demoralizing. It's the deliberate social engineering to make the world a much less visually appealing place. Some feminists would gleefully declare that last pronouncement as a blow to Patriarchy.

For once, they would be correct.

Now this thought occurred to me, when I was walking around downtown Honolulu this morning and observed the vast majority of females dressed as one or the other specimens I previously detailed. About 100 yards away, across the street, I observed a women wearing a dress. A regular, non-slutty dress that was tasteful and extremely visually appealing because it projected femininity in a non-promiscuous manner on a purely aesthetic level.

As we walked towards each other, I quickly realized that within 20 yards, it became apparent that she was actually quite unattractive when it came to her facial features...but her feminine appearance definitely went a long way towards softening up her asymmetrical face, acne scarring and crooked nose.

In Hawaii, we guys have a saying for this...it's called "Good from far...but far from good!' Nevertheless, this perception I had of her really drove the point home in my mind - the loss of the conventional standards of femininity in dress has made the world a much less beautiful place to behold. Even ugly women can avoid visual offense to male sensibilities if they project femininity in their dress and mannerisms! Of course there are plenty of women who just plain don't care about appealing to men's visual sense. I consider this a society-wide tragedy of epic proportions.

The flip side of that coin, of course, is the women who play up their sexual assets to inspire and over-excite their appeal to male visual stimuli response. This, of course, is much more common on the night time scene. In fact, many of the women who dress either as the masculinized, androgynous womanoids in either jeans t-shirts and tennis shoes in the daytime, or the "empowered" business attire during the day, will than go home, and get dressed up as exhibitionists for their night time recreation. As a normal male that certainly enjoys female visual stimuli, I still find such revealing attire a sad state of affairs. Women who dress like in this picture do project an aura of promiscuity - that they are open to propositions for casual sex with strangers. Even women who do not intend to do so, and are in fact interested in meeting a man with whom they want to pursue a serious committed relationship, still present themselves as promiscuous sluts when they are out and about for the evening, simply because that appears to be the norm of female attire in this day and age.

But the woman who truly stand out amongst the crowd, are those that defy the modern conventions, embrace tasteful femininity, and resemble a metaphorical flower amongst the weeds. Even here in Hawaii, where we have a somewhat specialized fashion sense influenced by our unique cultural conditions, it's apparent that the vast majority of women generally follow the typical models I previously detailed. The traditional feminine clothing specific to Hawaii is the mu'umu'u (it's NOT pronoucned "moo moo," it's pronounced moo-ooh moo-ooh), and most women in Hawaii (who were born and or raised here) have at least one mu'umu'u hanging in her closet.

But where it was once daily wear, it is now usually reserved for only church wear or family type events. Yet it was only a generation ago...hell, in my lifetime, that I recall most females, young and old, here in Hawaii, who wore mu'umu'u on an almost daily basis. I still remember my 3rd grade class when most of the girls wore dresses and mu'umu'u...but by the time we were in high school, the cultural inculcation of androgyny or hyper-sexualization had taken hold and rendered traditional feminine wear nearly obsolete.

I can't tell you how many times I've experienced an almost breath-taking shock when I've been around women I've known and socialized with for a long time...who all adhere to some various sense of masculine dress for the majority of their lives...who on some rare occasion, put on a feminine, non-promiscuous dress and shoes. It's a dramatic transformation...but it's only so shocking because indeed, as of nowadays, it's so uncommon.

It seems as if women en mass in our 21st century Brave New World Order have all been inculcated to embrace either androdgyny or exhibitionism in their clothing and fashion choices.

Both extremes are meant to either nullify or over-excite the human males hard-wired biological response to visual stimuli of the female form. In either case, it seems to me that the social engineers who have mutated cultural norms of fashion for traditional femininity into either extremes, have deliberately done so to help foment the modern gender war we all currently endure.

It's All About Hypergamy

It appears the debates between the relevancy, validity and morality of "Game" continues with both sides somewhat "talking past each other." I'm going to attempt to break it down to it's bare bones to try and foster a better understanding for "game" detractors, and to also explain why Game "works" across the spectrum of male and female relations.

In my view, I believe the biggest problem is largely of semantics. Many social conservatives and religious oriented detractors and critics of "game" have a hard time overcoming their sensibilities and moral sense of right and wrong when it comes to the terminology employed by "Game" proponents to gain a true grasp of the basic principles underlying "Game."

I myself thought at one time that the term "Game" was too loaded with negative connotations and that those of us that understand it should seek to come up with a better term for it...but I've since changed my mind about that, and I'll save that topic for another time.

Nevertheless, the misunderstandings that abound still need to be addressed.

First and foremost is the term hypergamy.

Hypergamy is the primary reproductive biological imperative of female sexuality. Whether you're a godless atheistic darwinist or a devout religious person, recognizing this basic fact need not be a point of contention, but rather an observation of reality. Either women evolved and adapted this hypergamous instinct as an evolutionary strategy...or God designed women that way on purpose. And while both views come from a very different starting point, they both have practical applications when it comes to understanding female sexuality and how it drives female mating strategy.

Because strategy is what it's all about. Mating strategies of men and women are nothing more than the reproductive biological imperative: Women are instinctually attracted to male dominance and men are instinctually attracted to female fertility. Both instinct-driven strategies are either God's or Natures way of ensuring the best means of ensuring the procreation of the next generation into an environment with the best chance of success in continuing the propagation of the species.

No amount of feminist social engineering, indoctrination or propaganda is ever going to overcome this basic instinct...it will only mislead people that believe in it down a path of unhappiness.

No amount of Christian-based moralizing and caricaturizing of male sexuality as depraved and female sexuality as chaste purity and virtue are going to overcome this instinct either, and it too only leads to shared misery of both men and women that adhere to it.

Both the religious and secular foundations of these shibboleths are destined to failure because they fail to understand the role of female hypergamy in the female mating strategy.

It all boils down to the basic fact that women are driven at a subconscious level to mate "up."

When it comes to "long term game" or dealing with it in a relationship, your mate will always subconsciously be judging your hypergamous position with regards to her in your relationship.

Think of it as a scale, with hypergamy on one end and beta-spinelessness on the other.

As long as your scale is tipping towards the hypergamy side, she's happy, she's in love, and your relationship is "working." Even if you occasionally backslide into some Beta behavior, as long as the majority of your relationship dynamic is tilted towards your status as a leader that she can respect and follow, you will not experience serious relationship discord.

But should you tip towards the Beta side far too much, it's a virtual certainty that she's going to "fall out of love" or start becoming dissatisfied with every facet of her life. Believe me, when you are running afoul of her basic hypergamous instinct, it will poison everything else in your relationship.

Marriage counselors and relationship advice folks always try to do scientific polls on the primary causes of divorce and/or relationship failures. They always point towards "money" or "infidelity" or some other easily recognizable "cause."

But what never gets addressed is the underlying female instinct of hypergamy.

A married couple can and will become a stronger, closer and more intimate couple in the face of severe difficulties and hardships in life...as long as the women has not developed Beta Contempt for her man. From a personal perspective, when I was in the death throes of marital beta-tude, minor financial troubles would turn into huge conflicts that would last for days...whereas nowadays we've never been worse off financially due to our current Great Depression 2.0, yet we get along better than ever.

Every instinct in every fiber of her being screams out for mating with a man who is "up" on the hypergamy scale. If your on the beta side, every little thing you do, every problem you both face, every obstacle and stumbling block in life will be magnified and intensified in her emotional reactions and her "feelings" about the Beta contempt she has for a man she no longer feels like she's "married up" with.

Another obstacle that seems to be hard to overcome appears to be an almost post-traumatic stress disorder reaction that manifests itself amongst many of Game's detractors - the minute a "Game" proponent tries to explain or encourage men to try and understand how they could apply the Game principles, critiques and criticisms of thought, ideas or actions in that context, they are reflexively deflected or rejected as nothing more than the equivalent of "shaming language."

Their is a substantial difference between trying to help someone recognize that a certain behavior is an attraction and respect killer to the female's attraction instincts by pointing out to them 'That's Beta,' versus a feminist or a mangina trying to silence debate by insulting someone simply to shame them into silence.

But I digress.

The primary point here is that whether you like it or not, the reason why "Game" has gained so much traction as of late, is because whether you agree with it or not, whether you are turned off by the hedonistic and what many consider the immoral pursuits of some of it's proponents (the PUA's), is because "Game" only WORKS because it is based on recognizing the principles of the female biological imperative, hypergamy.

Whether you are a devout Christian saving yourself for a marriage consecrated by God, or an aspiring player looking to engage in hedonistic indulgences with as many willing women as possible, understanding the principles of the female biological imperative will go a long way to understanding how to succeed at whatever avenue you choose to pursue.